Oops
So I made a boo boo on FB I posted a comment about having too many ppl in house the day after thanksgiving.... And my sd saw it, or it was sent to them from a mutual friend.... Anyways it was wrong I know. Somehow in my efforts to apologize my youngest sd lunged at me, it got really crazy. What drove me to it??? My oldest sd was gossiping about me to my bd, and yes instead of confronting her I went on FB. So my hubby left along with his daughter. He very much wants to fix things but expects me to put the most effort.... I'm not sure i want to, my sds were never close to me, they've always talked about behind my back.... They even fought my daughters that day just cuz they were defending me. My husband never thought he needed to reprimand his daughter for talking about me, she's disrespected me in front of him and he did nothing. He thought I deserved it for my comments on FB..... I want to do the right thing but I don't want them in my life anymore.....how do I do this without feeling awful ugh
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That's a tough one. Ok so u
That's a tough one. Ok so u f'd up but it sounds like you took responsibility for it. The question is this at least by me.
It is ur facebook, why apologize for how you feel? I told dh a long time ago, friend me dont friend me I dont care but you are not going to tell me what i can not state on fb.
Perhaps had ur DH listened to you the 800 times you asked him to address his daughters actions you would not have felt the need to vent on a social media sight. I KNOW I do.
He used to ask and start fights over my status's. Now I simply turn and ask him, are u willing to dealnwith it, and listen to my complaint and actually change anything about the situation with SD. And then I ANSWER FOR HIM WITH A RESOUNDING No your not!
I tell him all the time, when you step the hell up, ll shut the hell up.
Sometimes fair is just that...fair
Thank you for your input....
Thank you for your input.... It's pretty much what everyone in my life has been saying...@ formygirl.....yes she tried to fight me. My 17 yr old bd got in between.... sd are 18, 24. It's a little gray but let me just say before it got to this I came to my husband so he can say something to his daughter about being disrespectful.... He said she was entitled to her opinion. So things were going downhill from then on ... I agree have the family meeting but apparently they had something else in mind. I'm no angel but I've never mistreated them in any way, and I'm always there when they've needed me. The only problem I've had with them is that there lazy and slobs so is my younger bd but every time I brought that up he thought I was just picking on them. So I kept a lot things to myself and blow up when my dh and i argued.
Oh well, I've made my decision, I hope this helped someone else in this situation besides myself. Thank you all.
Being entitled to your
Being entitled to your opinion and being disrespectful are two completely different things. And if your DH can't understand that, better to make him an exDH than to suffer through that any longer.
My SD does not care for me, but, she sure as hell will be respectful when she is around me. She is entitled to dislike me all she wants, but, that does not give her the right to disrespect me in my home.
I think you take the same
I think you take the same path they've chosen. Don't try to "fix it." They clearly aren't interested so you do not have to be either .
Tell DH to fix it, as he
Tell DH to fix it, as he created the issue by not making them respect you or correcting them, to where it got that bad.!!
Meanwhile go on with your life and be glad they are gone.
If SD EVER raises a hand to you, do not hit her back, press assault charges instead. That will fix her smart ass!!!