Round 2.
I haven't blogged in a while (over 1.5 years, according to my last post). A lot has gone on during that time, and there wasn't much reason for me to write.
DH and I seperated February 2012, and our divorce was final in November. However, we soon realized that our divorce was caused due to our own stubborness and listening to the advice of family members who we should have never allowed into our personal business. We knew that the divorce was a mistake (seems that not everyone thought so, however). We remarried on March 11 in Las Vegas.
BM, upon finding out that DH and I were back together (this was before she found out we were getting remarried), FLIPPED HER SHIT. She called DH out of the blue, telling him that he would never see his children again and blah blah blah. BM's claim for the past 2 years or so was that I somehow abused skids because they came home hungry one day. This was after a full day of goiang to the science museum, library and ice cream, mind you. I would NEVER EVER EVER hurt a child, and it's quite insulting that I was put on trial and convicted with BM (and my MIL, who she's big buddies with now) before I even knew what was happening.
Anyway, DH had heated words with her and two days later, was served with a temporary restraining order for BM and skids. She claimed that DH said he was going to kill her, but it was mostly about how I "mistreated" skids. We went to court yesterday, and BM put on her best victim face and cried all over the court room, saying that skids came to her terrified that DH and I were back together. SD10 was sooo scared that she liked our wedding status on FB, right? This was promptly deleted by BM, btw. The judge sided with BM and the restraining order was made permanent for one year. DH cannot go within 500 feet of BM's home/work and must have supervised visitation with skids by my MIL. Needless to say, DH is very upset and hurt. Not only with BM, but with his own mother.
It's just a mess.
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DH has FINALLY decided to
DH has FINALLY decided to step up and defend me (before it was, "let's just keep the peace") against BM, his mother, etc. He really has grown into an awesome husband, and we've both locked down on the fact that no one, including BM, is going to pry into OUR relationship. So yes, I think our future will be filled with lots of happiness.
Doesn't there have to be some
Doesn't there have to be some kind of evidence...a police report, some sort of incident report, a witness or SOMEthing that would justify an RO?
That is awful. What a bitch.
That is awful. What a bitch. I can't believe the Judge made it permanent just off her word alone. BM filed one on me once and it was dismissed at the hearing because she could not prove any of her claims. She didn't stop with that, she kept going thru other routes to attempt to ruin me, but that is a whole other story.
Wow. I have to ask though,
Wow.
I have to ask though, what else did BM have besides her word to justify all that? It is kind of hard to believe that a judge would split up a family like that based on NOTHING. What was the custody situation before the RO???
These so called "threats"
These so called "threats" took place in a phone conversation, so there's really no way to prove that BM wasn't telling the truth. The judge even said "this looks more like a custody thing than anything" and she STILL placed the restraining order on DH! It made no sense whatsoever. We both went in there thinking that there was no evidence to support what she was saying, so we assumed that it would be dropped.
We are, however, going to get an attorney to try to file a motion to have to over-turned. This is the one judge who handles CS, visitation, restraining orders, you name it. Anything family court. So we'll see how it goes.
I'm stunned I know it's easy
I'm stunned I know it's easy as any lie to get the temporary order but usually you have to have some evidence, proof that the order is necessary for the long term, but the accused ALSO has to have proof it's lies did you guys do/have anything to prove it all false or just figure since it was it would be dropped? Can a lawyer help you get it dropped early I know of judges doing that a lot of times in cases where the person who took out the order kept breaking it, maybe hope she does that. Yes if she goes against the order your DH and you can report her and she can be arrested order goes for her too.
Unbelievable! This is why
Unbelievable! This is why many parents only have text message and email conversations. What is happening to you is my worst nightmare. I hope the attorney can get this fixed. Some BMs are just pure evil!
DH and I have agreed that
DH and I have agreed that if/when contact is reinstated with BM, there will be zero phone conversations. Everything will be handled via text message or email. Period.