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I think SO could use a Steptalk account......he's making me crazy- RANT

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Submitted by Yosemite on Sun, 05/05/2013 - 11:16pm

My SO is going through rough stuff right now. I am trying to be supportive but he's being very hard to be around and apparently my kids are driving him crazy. I am trying to be understanding but I really don't care to hear any critique of my kids period. I support them and parent them. I ask him to do nothing more than be nice to them. However, he and my son, who is the youngest, have a developed a close relationship, which is both great and extremely annoying at the same time.
It's great because my son's biodad is not in the picture at all and he hasn't seen him since he was 4. It's annoying because to be blunt, I don't care about SO's opinion of how I should raise my son. There I said it! I try to care. I realize he's a man and I'm a woman and it takes a man to raise one. But at the end of the day, I just really want to raise my son the way I want to raise him. I know that is selfish, but that's how it is.
I really do appreciate SO's efforts and I love him even more cause he loves my kid, but damn if I want anybody telling me how to raise my kid.
So maybe he should sign up here to rant about my kids. He can get it off his chest and I don't have to hear about it. Ugggg....long day.

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Submitted by Ashalala on Sun, 05/05/2013 - 11:57pm

(((hugs))) I know how frustrating this can be. For us "blenders" it is a vicous cycle though. Get a good nights rest, try and ignore grumpy, you may wake up feeling a bit better in the morning Wink

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Submitted by Yosemite on Mon, 05/06/2013 - 8:27am

Thank you for reading my whiny post and giving good advice. I do feel better this morning. SO's dad has cancer, so he has a legitimate reason to be grumpy. It's just wearing me out in general.

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Submitted by Yosemite on Mon, 05/06/2013 - 8:24am

Wow! I really should not post when I am tired. This blog entry is whiny and vague, sorry about that!
SO has been out of sorts because his dad is dying. He is very short with everyone. I understand this and am trying to be very supportive and understanding.
Also, most of the time I do like to hear his input in regards to my kids as it's an objective opinion. However, yesterday he was pushing too hard and it made me angry, thus the whiny post and desire to disregard his input.
If anyone wants more specific info, SO had been picking at all the kids all day. Then in the evening it came to a head because he found out I got BS13 an iPhone 5 w/o telling him ahead of time. BS13 wanted an iPhone 5. I told him if he earned half the money for it I would pay the other half. BS13 earned his half of the money, so I bought it. SO was pissed I didn't consult him first. He kept saying that BS13 will probably lose it and then I will be out the money. I think SO's issue probably was at least partly due to the fact that SS9 is over and he didn't get one. He also doesn't think a kid needs such an expensive phone. All of it was compounded by his general bad mood due to his dad.
However, I see this as a non issue cause I can afford it, BS13 paid his half and we (SO and I) have separate finances, so I wish he would just leave it alone.