DH Thinks we should give SS back his tablet
even though we told him that he'd get things back after he had two weeks of all homework in and that as soon as he dropped down to anything missing, it'd be taken again.
Do you think SS13 has had two weeks of getting all HW in? Of course not.
DH thinks we should give him something "because he can tell he's getting sad and he really wants his xbox back and can't we just give him something. he's only missed one assignment last week"
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I think 2 weeks is too long.
I think 2 weeks is too long. My BS had issues with school too and severe punishing is very discouraging. It NEVER worked for my son either and his therapist recommended easing up a bit and working together as a team.
A couple of days at a time should work. If he accomplishes some work after a few days then he can be rewarded. If he falls again. Another day or 2 off of it. Sooner or later he will have more good days. JMO. Good luck.
Gosh, I don't know. SS13 is
Gosh, I don't know. SS13 is the oldest one in the house. I have DD12, DS10 and DS9. They ALL get ALL of their homework done every week. They all go to a very small private school and even get homework help in aftercare.
Dh took SS's things away a while back. After receiving his report card and having a meeting with his teachers, we cracked down. It seemed like a simple enough expectation... but he can't seem to do it two weeks in a row.
Again, all the other kids in the house complete their homework on a regular basis AND they go to my exH's house 1-2 nights a week so they are up against an extra challenge with changing households mid-week. All kids (Skid and bios) do EOWe with their other bio parent.
How about he gets his Tablet
How about he gets his Tablet back for the evening ONLY when he proves his homework is completed? And if he gets his homework completed for an entire school week he gets it back for the weekend from 7am - 9pm each weekend day.
I like this idea. The short
I like this idea. The short term achievable goals might motivate him more. i would reduce the time he gets it over the weekend though, personally i think a few hours a day should be enough for a child to be on a computer and he would probably need time for homework over the weekend as well.
I agree! Consistency really
I agree! Consistency really needs to be part of the whole discipline process. Without follow through of the child earning back his tablet by doing the all homework for the specified time, that child owns you and will not respect the discipline or your DH. IF DH doesn't do what is right in this situation he should be prepared for the child to never change his behavior.