As I posted last night, http://steptalk.org/node/162675, SD12 was kicked out of diabetes camp. FDH talked to the doctor who runs the camp today and he will be picking her up tonight.

I am super upset about this. I REALLY needed this one week, with no kids to get my head together and relax without drama but nooooooooo.... Little Miss "Social Anxiety" couldn't participate and acted like a big jerk (throwing tantrums like she does here when she doesn't get what she wants) so now my whole week is ruined. I had a nice dinner planned for the two of us. No more. I have an important meeting with my boss tomorrow and I work from home and now will have to be worried about them making noise, her throwing fits, etc... My anxiety is through the roof right now.

I talked to FDH today. He will be working from home tomorrow and she goes to her mother's Friday. (I told him BM needs to pick her up since he had to drive to camp twice and she needs to do so before he leaves for work because I refuse to spend one moment alone with such a defiant child). He told me he talked to BM this morning and she couldn't believe he was upset with SD over this. She said "It's not her fault she has social anxiety". He said he told her he thinks they both are contributing to making it worse. He also apologized to me for the impact it's having.

I told him I couldn't believe that he thinks a good consequence for her behavior is to take away electronics until she goes home Friday morning. Oooooh boy- 36 whole hours!!! I explained that I am really upset and so sick of hearing so much lip service. BM thinks it's a mental issue but doesn't take her to counseling appointments. They've both been told by TWO of her therapists to limit her time on the computer and only allow her to have it as a reward but neither of them does this. He's telling me he's going to take care of it but how many times have I heard that? Do her tantrums have to turn violent and actually have someone get hurt here before they act? I told him that if I hear ONE whine, cry , yell or scream out of her while she's here that I will be yelling at her myself and I don't care how high her blood sugar is. This is ridiculous.

At the end of the conversation I really screwed up. I was so mad and so over all this. He asked why our dinner was ruined. I told him "I don't have enough food for her. I wasn't planning on effing GUESTS tonight. And besides, why would I want to sit and eat with that little bitch?" Then I hung up.

I feel really bad for saying that. Crossed a line. But dammit, I am so exhausted from all this. He needs to deal with this ASAP. Serious behavioral intervention needs to happen or I am out of here. It would be heartbreaking because there is so much good in him. But I can't live with visitations (planned and unplanned ) from this monster child who is getting worse every day that they don't act. She has 2.5 weeks before school starts and there is no way she's going to go since they didn't use this summer to get her mentally and physically ready. She's spent the entire summer in bed with her face glued to a screen. She doesn't even have muscle tone anymore. WTF?

Oh and tonight and tomorrow will completely suck because he says he's taking away the electronics and told her so on the phone. But the whining "WHY????????" will start the minute she walks in the door. I left all her stuff in her room. Can't wait to see if he actually goes in there and takes them away when she arrives.