SD8 back to school and accidents
SD8 will be starting back to school soon but still wets her pants at least 2-3 times a week. I am worried about how school will handle this. I am NOT looking forward to having to go up to the school to deal with this problem all the time! Is there anyone else here that has had to deal with the school and "accidents"? It's hard enough dealing with it at home but dealing with this problem at school is going to drive me more crazy. How does everyone else here handle this issue?? I have tried everything I can think of to get her to stop but nothing has worked. It goes in 1 ear and out the other with her and I am SOO sick of having to clean up after her and take care of her laundry. We are 100% positive that it is nothing medical, its pure laziness on her part. HELP!!
Katie
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I know they make pull ups for
I know they make pull ups for "big kids". Sorry you're going through this. My eldest daughter had bathroom accidents up to the time she was eight years old. But it only happened a couple of times.
I know a friend of mine was still going to her son's school to wipe his butt when he was ten years old. He had a slight developmental delay, though.
Also it goes without saying, her dad should be the one dealing with this and not you.
Thanks, I know they make pull
Thanks, I know they make pull ups in her size, she wore them before to bed. She is small for her age and they would still fit her no problem. The issue we had with them is that they leaked and it didnt bother her one bit that she had to wear one. I dont have a problem sending her to school with them, I guess they would get the job done for the most part. I am hoping the school doesnt have a problem with me doing that. I think the big problem is that it doesnt bother her like it should. She has had accidents at school before but she wasnt having as many accidents as she is having now.
Katie
And I assume you've already
And I assume you've already taken her to a doctor? Just to rule out urinary tract infections/possible abuse etc.?
We have yes Amber. Her dr
We have yes Amber. Her dr has assured us multiple times that she is perfectly healthy and she could find NOTHING wrong with her. She just doesnt want to take the time to go when she has to. I have to try to make her go every hour or so when she is at home and she has every excuse in the book not to go.
Katie
Gotcha. Then as someone
Gotcha. Then as someone above suggested, you'll have to start handing out punishments, getting increasingly more severe as you go.
But develop a system of punishment and reward. You have to find whatever it is that she loves more than anything in the world and take that away from her. Also, keep a chart of her behavior and for every week she goes without an accident she gets some kind of reward.
Be sure that both punishment and reward are in direct proportion to her accidents. For every day she has an accident, that's a day with no TV, or whatever.
Make her HAND WASH her wet
Make her HAND WASH her wet clothes (and sheets if she wets the bed). This cured SS14. He wet the bed pretty much nightly, and it's only happened ONCE in the last three months.
My ss who is now 15 had this
My ss who is now 15 had this problem as well-actually to this day he still wets himself at night. But he was actually daytime trained at around age 2. Then at age 7 or so he just started wetting himself at school. He'd come home smelling horrid. He'd piss himself, then not say anything about it and just sit around in pissy underwear all day. I'd ask him what the heck was going on and he'd tell me his teacher wouldn't let him go to the bathroom. I didn't actually believe that but I thought I needed to get them involved anyway. I contacted the teacher who had no idea he was wetting himself numerous times a week. He smelled really really bad so I have no idea how she didn't know. But anywho I simply told him I WAS going to make him wear a pullup to school every day-and have the staff assist him with changing it midday during recess in order to prevent a diaper rash. I told him I didn't want to have to do that as it would be really embarrassing for him as the other kids would likely find out and make fun of him. After we had that little talk he stopped wetting himself.
I honestly believe he started doing it for attention. Because it first we tried the whole chart and encouragement and concern, and dr.s appts to rule out anything medical-it was probably pretty rewarding to him-but then when he realized the potential for negative attention and that he would get made fun of by his peers I think it took the wind out of his sails