I think it is best for stepfamily members to not look at each other's fb/social networking pages unless absolutely necessary. Meaning, don't look at Loca's unless you have to. Why let her craziness into your life more than necessary? And she's truly crazy.

Ours is just like that. Once DH was referring to his grandma infront of her and he said My Grandma Johnson, she corrected him and said she is my grandma too. WTF the woman hads been dead for 15 years!! He was married to this woman for 10 years and divorced for 8, she probably knew grandma for 5 years including their marriage and dating. BM still can't let go of DH's family. His mother is here and staying with us as well as his dad. At the end of the week his dad retires and they are moving to Florida. She has been dropping little hints to him over the last week about what is going on this week and acting like DH has shared this info with her. We know my rat faced SIL has been sharing cuz DH told the kids they were not to share and they swear they didn't and DH sure didn't.

I personally cant stand my inlaws first or second set. However the first set is my DD's family. I had 15 years with those folks. If I liked them I think I would be effected by their death. They were a part of my life and at one point for a long time considered family.

I dont think it means she pines for your husband and ANON is right, perhaps you need to stay off BM's fb page. It is not as if she is calling and infliciting her feelings on you, your out there looking for them. No harm for BM no foul. However you, cant complain about what you read on FB...you shouldnt be reading it anyway