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Access denied......again.

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Submitted by Topmuffin901 on Thu, 10/10/2013 - 8:02am

So as many of you are aware BM turned nuclear and now she's refusing access again. Today should have been DH's second week night with SS but batshit sent a text this morning. The exact text she sent on
Tuesday (see previous blog). DH solicitor is sending her a letter addressing her behaviour and stating that if she continues to break the CO we will be going back to court. Sometimes I really hate living in the UK when it comes to custody battles because everyone (solicitors,judges,cafcass) all pussy foot around BM's and their golden uterouses. How can keeping a child from it's loving father seem like a good idea to these women? (and I'm using the term women loosely, they should be classed as scum IMHO). Honestly this woman has never gotten to me like this before. Maybe it's just that I see the impact she is now having on SS not only in his mental health but his physical health too, and as a mum myself I can't see how another 'mum' would do that to their own child. Surely they should love their child more than they hate their ex. Sorry vent over.

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Submitted by Topmuffin901 on Thu, 10/10/2013 - 8:37am

They might as well have a big flashing neon sign above their heads that says 'I love myself more than my kid'. It's that obvious it's painful. BM once said to DH 'you have 2 other children why can't you just leave me and SS alone? How do you think I feel when he leaves me to play happy families with you and topmuffin?' BATSHIT crazy!

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Submitted by Topmuffin901 on Thu, 10/10/2013 - 8:40am

DH hasn't respond to her. We have. Talked about it and after advice from here have decided to just ignore her completely. It seems like she is doing anything she can to get a reaction from DH. There's only so long you can try and be civil with someone like her and 4 years is long enough for me.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Thu, 10/10/2013 - 8:48am

hmmm...I'm not so sure not responding is the best thing to do. Maybe if he responds with something like this....

"Noted...BM refused visitation 10/10/13 against CO" Just to show the courts that he received message.

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 10/10/2013 - 9:19am

Keep in mind that many of these custodial BMs are practicing prostitution on an installment payment plan. Kind of like a mortgage for breeding if the men chose the mother of their children unwisely.

For the men it is a zero value financial burden. For the manipulative BMs it is a long term residual income for breeding.

For viable adult parents who can remain cordial and cooperate on the raising of their children even if they can't remain married it is mutually beneficial relationship. Each have a loving co-parent for their child(ren) and a supportive ally in raising their mutual child(ren).

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Submitted by Topmuffin901 on Thu, 10/10/2013 - 9:36am

Willow that sounds like a great response. I'll speak with DH when he gets home. The only reason we haven't responded is because every time we do she seems to escalate her behaviour. I'm seriously can't take much more of he bulls**t! I'm so tired of all the drama.