LOL... what if their mother is a crack head prostitute? That's the stupidest thing I've read all day!

Some deranged entitled BM came up with that! My ex is an amazing father who sure as hell doesn't love me, thank god! lol

I keep seeing the same thing on Facebook and I'm like... this is great in an intact marriage but for the rest of us out here - this is stupid. There are lots of things a father can do that is more important than this.

I've seen tihat too and I wanted to scream that they are stupid

I like what Former said the best.

The best thing my husband can do for his daughter, is not let her know that her mother is a whore.

Yeah, I've seen that too! On Pinterest. I thought "No effing way!!!" :sick:

Oh heck NO! I get tired of the whole he should love this woman because she is a part of his child! Although I feel strongly that you do not degrade this person because it was your dumb ass that lied down with her in the first place. I feel more strongly that my husband better never put another woman before me and never ever mutter the words to me or ANY other breathing thing that he loves BM! My FIL (who still gives his X birthday, christmas and mother's day presents and is remarried )tells my husband this all the time your mom and I divorced and I will always love her because she is your mother. He drilled this into my DH's head for years and thought my DH should feel the same way about BM.

Hey just because FIL still has a thing for his X doesn't mean my husband does! If DH was ever to have muttered those words in my presence I would have divorced him! I don't care if the woman is a saint (she isn't in our case)he better not LOVE her!

I think the best things a dad can do for his kids (even if they're adults) are:

1. Insist they show all adults, sm included, respectful treatment.

2. Show an interest in their lives.

3. Be there for them. Give them lots of love and support.

4. Don't bash the other parent.

5. Treat the other parent with the same courtesy and treatment they'd show a colleague. Keep it professional and businesslike.

6. Spend time with your kids.

Keep in kind, these apply to BMs too.

I don't think it was meant to upset stepmothers or anything. What I think this refers to is treating the child's mother good if they're in a relationship and the child is witnessing their relationship. If a child's father disrespects and hurts their mother in their marriage, of course it has a great impact on the child, even if he's great to the child. So I think the saying refers to that situation. Not something else. At least that's how I see it. I don't think that the person who wrote that was thinking beyond that or going deeper.

As for the order you posted - god, wife, child... Why? Does a man have to be a believer to be a good father? If a father doesn't believe in god, he's not doing the best for his child?
Your order of love in a child's best interest can kind of go in the same category as the first saying the way you interpreted it.
Why, exactly, does he have to love his wife more than his child? I'd say he does need to put her above the child in a household because the wife is a self supporting person and the child is a minor who depends on the father, but I wouldn't say that more love is necessary.