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I really hate it when he says, "Don't let it get to you."

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Submitted by LittlePanda on Wed, 11/13/2013 - 7:48am

Whether it's about SD or BM and usually both at the same time, he always says, "you have to try to just ignore it." Really?

I live in a house with a child that I cannot stand. I raise 2 babies with my husband in that house..how can I ignore a PERSON who LIVES with us and causes constant stress?

I mean..I can't just pretend like SD doesn't exist without it fucking up the rest of the family in one way or another.

How do I just IGNORE my 8yr old SD.

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Submitted by esm for too long on Wed, 11/13/2013 - 8:10am

Typical...just ignore the jerk, which actually translates into "I am not going to do anything at all to create a responsible, respectful adult, so you just have to turn a blind eye - like I'm going to keep doing her whole life."

UGH.

I hear the same shit about my SD8 and it makes me want to punch him in the throat. Wink

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Submitted by LittlePanda on Wed, 11/13/2013 - 11:34am

exactly right. And what will we all do when the skid turns into a monster that no one can control because her parents never did Jack or Shit for her? I guess just "ignore it" because she is just a kid after all! Even if she is ruining your marriage, stressing your wife out, tormenting or ignoring the other children and just all together making the entire house unhappy...just ignore it! Yeah..OK.

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Submitted by LittlePanda on Wed, 11/13/2013 - 11:31am

My biggest fear. She is already acting like a little teenager too and she is 8. Maybe by the time she is an actual teenager she will be living with her mom. I already know that I won't be able to handle a shitty teenager that doesn't belong to me. At least when they belong to you you can do whatever you want about it and feel however you want and know that it is justified..they are your children. With an SD you are either over stepping or an apathetic bitch. There is nothing a non parent can do.

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Submitted by kathc on Wed, 11/13/2013 - 8:33am

I HATE the "ignore it" comment. How can we be expected to ignore someone trying to disrupt and cause problems in OUR LIVES?!? I'm sorry, I haven't figured out a good comeback to that one yet. Sad

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Submitted by itsmylifetoo on Wed, 11/13/2013 - 1:15pm

OOOOOh, my SO and I just had a conversation about this last week. BM has done nothing but stir up trouble in our house. He always tells ME that I have to be the bigger person and not let it get to me. His constant invalidation of my feelings and the seriousness of the impact these issues have had on our family and relationship over the past two years drives me crazy, and I told him this. I wrote a blog last week about trying to figure out how to not let BM or skids behavior "get to me" and not argue about her anymore. The point is that he is biologically connected to his kids, I am not and therefore less accepting of their rude, entitled behavior. I have a choice if I want them or BM in my life...he DOES NOT...so he HAS to figure out how to be okay with his situation, this was also said to him. We worked out some communication issues through this talk, we will see what happens the next time something comes up.