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Why are men so insensitive?

isthisforme123's picture

Submitted by isthisforme123 on Fri, 02/28/2014 - 11:11am

So DH and I got some bad news on the fertility front a few days ago. I spent the night in our room crying. DH goes on as usual. Ok I get that we process things differently. Then last night skids are over. DH goes on and on about his friends new baby, how he went to the Briss, etc. of course skids had a bunch of questions about the baby, what a Briss was, so that went on for awhile. Then DH starts with SS telling him how similar their hair is, how much they look alike (I have seen pictures of DH at SS age and they are clones). I just got up and left the table.

I mean I'm dealing with terrible news and DH just Does Not Care. I don't really care to hear about resemblance between DH and SS normally, and especially not now that I think I won't be able to have an OURS baby with him. And now DH is annoyed at me.

I want to believe he is just thick, or hurting on the inside, or whatever, but I actually think he probably doesn't give a rats behind.

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bluehighlighter's picture

Submitted by bluehighlighter on Fri, 02/28/2014 - 11:27am

i'm so sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HUGGSSSSSSSSS

I hope you get some comfort soon

that would hurt me tremendously. whether or not he means to or not you are hurt and it's not cool

Generic's picture

Submitted by Generic on Fri, 02/28/2014 - 11:29am

my husband is the worst at this! I feel for you but I have no advice. He needs to know this is a touchy subject. You should have said, "OK guys, enough with the baby conversation. ok? get it? " and then give him the eyebrow and let him come to his own conclusion about how very inappropriate that conversation was to have at this time.

isthisforme123's picture

Submitted by isthisforme123 on Fri, 02/28/2014 - 11:34am

Oh I would, but the SDs are so crafty. They would know something was up and go report right back to BM. We already got a nice email from BM the other day about how irresponsible it was for him to have the vasectomy reversed without considering the needs of his "first family."

A. WTF "first family?" We aren't friggin polygamous.
B. how did she know? Answer: SDs.

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Submitted by z3girl on Fri, 02/28/2014 - 11:31am

I'm sure it's not intentional. I battled infertility for years, and DH really didn't seem to "get it" when discussing some things. I'm so sorry.