So I recently got it through DH's thick skull that it wasn't fair that I was the only one cleaning this huge house we bought every weekend while the two skids slept all damn day. They don't have any chores because DH can't follow through on any with them. So Sundays became the day that everyone had to help clean. The skids didn't do a whole heck of a lot, but at least they had to to be inconvenienced from what THEY wanted to do for a while, so I considered it a win.

Anyway, last weekend, I was away. I didn't say anything to DH about cleaning the house, but I sort of knew it wouldn't happen. When I got back Thursday, everything looked suspiciously clean. I didn't say anything to DH until this morning when I asked if the skids helped clean last Sunday. He said he didn't know. :? I said how the heck can you not know? You either cleaned or you didn't. Then he said that he vacuumed on Thursday afternoon and that SD dusted. I said, Really. Are you lying about SD helping ? Again he said he couldn't remember. I told him just to stop, that I knew exactly what went on. That no one cleaned on Sunday, and that that was just GREAT because he made ME out to be the asshole bitch who makes everyone clean and he was #1 fun DAD who didn't make them do it while the witch was away. He got mad and said well I didn't feel like it. I said, so you ran around the night I was coming home and did all of the cleaning yourself so I wouldn't flip my lid and skids got out of doing any work yet again.

I said, okay, so since no one (skids) has cleaned for two weeks, are the skids going to get up and clean the bathrooms that haven't been touched for two weeks now? How about the kitchen floor? He got pissed off and said if you want to get them up and do it fine, but I'm leaving. He stormed out of the house and I don't know where he is. Of course, I cannot get those two up, by myself and get them to clean, and he knows that.

I am so sick and tired of living FULL TIME with these kids who do not lift a finger. I told DH three weeks ago that I was done doing the dishes after dinner. He generally cooks. I have the same problem lots of you do with picky skids and I don't want to short-order cook. DH has always cooked and I always did the dishes. However, I am quite tired of having to clean up after a 14 and 12 year old, who stick their plates in the dishwasher (sometimes) and then RUN FOR THIER LIVES for their rooms because GOD FORBID they be asked to wash a baking dish. Two months ago I stated at the dinner table that they had to start taking turns helping me wash the baking dishes and pots. DH won't enforce it and SD helped ONCE. SS acts like he doesn't know how (both kids are in gifted program at school give me break.) So anyway, I told DH I have been the dishes slave for five years and that I'm done. It is their turn now. DH said that EVERYONE SHOULD HELP. I said well when EVERYONE helps, maybe I will help too. Should is his favorite word. He also said maybe we would just go out to eat all the time. I said power to you, I don't really care. I have eaten dinner with them twice since I have gotten back and DH has cooked. I have walked away after dinner and not helped with the dishes. DH hasn't said anything, but I know a blow up is going to occur because he is going to be mad at ME for not doing the dishes. TOO BAD.

As far as the house is concerned, I am not too sure what to do about it. I suppose I could only clean the areas I tend to use, and throw my hands up in the air about the rest. But I really can't stand a dusty, dirty house. DH knows this and I think he uses it against me in the war over letting the skids be lazy asses.