He was dumb, dumb, dumb.

totally looking like a crazy person here laughing my ass off alone in my office... love how you worded your post!!!!

fortunately i am SO DAMN LUCKY in this regard. i dont have to wonder about this particular subject. dumbass USED to be decent.

he said she started to change for the worse following mss's birth. yss was a total mistake, and they split a year after he was born. and her downward spiral continued, picking up speed (*gigglsnorts*) as time went on.

BM is actually pretty cute and kind of normal except where DH and SS are concerned. They were actually in love....gag.

I think I would lose respect for DH if she was a snaggle tooth, dirty, crack whore, like some many of the DHs here seem to love for their first wife.

Edit to add...BM is KIND of cute. lol.

Twuntzilla WAS very pretty, and easy, and DH was young and horny.

By the time he realized what a whackjob she is, she was knocked up. Idiot.

A cocktail of dim lighting, drug exploration, closing time, family dysfunction, lies about fertility, and low self-esteem led to SO's knocking up of the whore. No man would knowingly stick his penis into a crazy pit! Pity, white-knighting and mommy/daddy issues made SO into a codependent/enabler of Psy-Cow.

Like any good borderline, Psy-Cow love bombed him -- put him on a pedestal at the beginning, cooked meals for him after the bar, told interesting tales about how everyone had hurt her, plied him with drugs and alcohol, and gave him wild uninhibited sex since she had (has) no boundaries. As soon as the child support check... I mean "baby"... was born, the devaluation began.

Kid #2 came around while SO grieved the loss of his grandmother - the only normal person in his family. He and BM were not together, but he had a weekend of weakness. I could kill him for that one, but I would be such a hypocrite if you saw the depths of my own dating dysfunction after my grandmother passed away.

To be honest, to my knowledge, DH has never dated or procreated with a hideous beast at least LOOKS wise. Both BMs are (or at least were) what I would call cute. His two ex girlfriends prior to meeting me were cute. HOWEVER, apparently DH was too concerned with looks to worry about hooking up with a bitch for life. BM2 is the nastiest, vilest bitch I have ever met. BM1 has turned into a meth head, trailer park hoe with 5 illegitimate kids with 3 different baby daddies and her demeanor is not a whole lot better than BM2's.

Of course DH swears that they both "changed" since he was dating them/screwing them, but I find that hard to believe. Fool you once? Shame on you. Fool you twice? You're a fucking idiot.

Oh wait! forgot to mention that DH met BM2 while he was a CO at the County Jail. She was there visiting some relative of hers. Like WTF? I don't care if you are a super model (which she is NOT) shouldn't the fact that she is visiting her relative in jail at least be a teeny tiny red flag????

DH and BM actually weren't dating. She was a cashier at his job and she became a fuck buddy.

Mil knew there was some girl in his life and kept asking to meet her and DH kept telling her "it's not like that. I don't like her like that. We just hook up sometimes"

I mean, she was an easy lay so whatever. I just wish he used more protection and didn't depend on her depo shots.
Apparently BM was obsessed with him so he would put her on hold. But still slept with her once in a while and then bam, she got pregnant.
DH swears she got pregnant on purpose. After deciding to keep the baby and try to work at it, THEN he finally introduced BM to his family.

He says living with BM was the worst time of his life. He was so miserable and then finally parted and got his own place.
Thank god he didn't marry her, or I'd never hear the end of it. BM thinks DH is still her property because they had SD together.

Totally different when we met. We dated and I met his family. We moved in together. Got engaged. Bought a house. Got married. And are having a baby soon.

BioMonster may have been cute when DH first hooked up with her, but it didn't take long for her to let herself go. When DH and the ho split, she was already 2.5 times the woman she had been when they met and has gained MORE weight. She is 12 years younger than I am and looks 20+ years older than she really is. She gets VERY miffed when people think she is in her 50s. BM either wears so much makeup, she looks like Mimi from the Drew Carey show, or she wears none and looks freakin' scary.

Mine had little experience and was pretty shy when BM found him online and sank her teeth into him. Of course he went for it - it had boobs! And he's so trusting of everything in the world so when BM says 'I'm on birth control' he believed her. TWICE.
And BM was not unattractive in the beginning but I've never seen a picture of them together smiling. Not even on their wedding day.

When DH starts talking about how disgusting BM is Iike to remind him that he reproduced with her and that she didn't get fat or bitchy overnight! He always comes back and says she wasn't that bad in high school when they started dating. He forgets there's only one high school in the area and I went there too and everyone knew BM as a mean bitch and she was always overweight. Lol. I guess guys just have this puppy dog devotion to their first. He said they only got pregnant because they were having problems and thought it would help so yeah obviously he was some kind of hypnotized with the dumb

She was sort of a conquest. My DH felt like a big man when he found the stupidest, most sheltered plain Jane he had ever met. Like Ann from Arrested Development (Who? Plant? Egg? Her?). He got to be a big man who showed her how the world works and under his guidance she would become a cool person. Arrogant egotistical fool. I'm so glad I didn't know that DH. He really felt like a big man when she never became a cool person and just sucked all the life out of him instead. Oh yeah, he's a big man now that she's STILL trying to latch onto him like a barnacle and he's STILL supporting her worthless ass. Big man indeed.

LOW SELF ESTEEM + HORNINESS =SD10. .. idk. Bm was always a train wreck, and her fashion style reminds me of groupies at an Insane Clown Posse concert. Just ugh, no. She keeps pledging to only wear pajamas at bedtime, but somehow that is too big of a challenge for her also.
The woman who SO slept with right before me was gross, too. And they both weighed A LOT more than what would be a healthy weight. I even had to ask him if he liked big girls and why he was with me. It kinda messes with your head.

Zero self-esteem. He thought he couldn't do any better. Sad.

Glad he's wised up since then and realizes his worth!