Eff You DH and Eff You BM and the Rest of the Effin Skids
So, BM texts me last and says she is giving princepothead an ultimatum, smarten up or move out. Apparently he laughed and said he would just go to dads. So, of course DH is on night shift, I tell her not to bring him. I text DH and tell him, the pothead can wait until tomorrow when you're home to come.
Nope, she drives his ass over, drops him off. Bobs your uncle. I said NO to both of them. EFFFFF you both you dumb effing pieces of useless excuses for parents.
So she texts me this morning "that was the hardest thing I ever had to do" I was seeing effing red, I was thinking, oh yes, a nice CLEAN home, a playstation and flatscreen in his room, food and oh yea, a roof over his head... How terrible. I respond with "it's not like you dropped him off on the streets"
She of course isn't rattled, "it was still the hardest thing"
EFFF THE WORLD, EFF YOU ALL >.. not you STers.... I AM EFFING ON FIRE NOW.
So tonight when I am done work, I am going to tell the pothead and his father that he is to work full time, school full time, rehab or out. Oh and I want rent. And oh yea, if I even THINK there are drugs in my house, I will call the police. No warnings. (keeping in mind my friends, I am the recovering alcoholic... yea, there's that too. Been almost 3 years. Still a struggle and have some GD respect)
That's my eff off effing rant and I cannot be more pissed off today. It's gonna be a good day. GAAAAAAAAA!
Oh and my mother moved across the other side of the country, so I cannot go see her and whine to her.... LOL!
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Wow, I know that feeling,
Wow, I know that feeling, when you are so unbelievably pissed at all of the stupid people around you. Makes your head want to explode right off of your shoulders! How old is princepothead? Sounds like it won't be long before he fails at paying rent or working or keeping drugs out of the house. Keep your radar on and get his ass out of there! Keep us posted.
Oh and call your mother, it sounds like it will make you feel better, even if it's not in person.
~ Moon
I am so pissed for you. Time
I am so pissed for you.
Time to write up the List of Rules. Lots and lots of rules. And he can start by cleaning that pig sty of a room.
I would not be able to deal with this, I wish you luck.
I would have locked the door
I would have locked the door and refused to answer.
You told her to wait until the next day when his dad was home, told DH the same thing aka "I aint dealing with your kid that you effed up" so she shows up anyway? Who cares? let them sit in the driveway!
I would have done this,
I would have done this, also.
About 6 years ago, when SD was 17 and had stopped her visitation, she told DH she was going to come over some Saturday. He told her to call ahead of time to make sure he would be home (his work schedule varied back then).
Nope, one Saturday she just showed up (BM brought her). DH was at work and I did not even answer the door to tell her he wasn't home. She knew I was there; I didn't care.
I am also pissed for you.
I am also pissed for you. These fucking kids go from one green pasture to the next. Stick to your plan...make him uncomfortable, make him pay rent. I bet a dollar mommy sweetie pants will have him back when he's mad at you.
Hard for her to DRIVE HIM to your house and drop him off!!! WTF? Hard would be kicking him out in the street, having him arrested, etc. she sounds like a piece of work.
OPS post totally reminded me
OPS post totally reminded me of your situation. Just dump the kid on stepmom
Yeah, she is ... This is the
Yeah, she is ... This is the BM that collected and kept many thousands of dollars of CS when her kids decided not to do chores at her house, so they came to live with us.... And did no chores. They are 18 and 20. Get a life.
F*ck.
You couldn't say no? I have
You couldn't say no? I have a list of rules for SD18 if she ends up here, but honestly, am not sure if I could even do it.
Bm did this to us once too
Bm did this to us once too and daddy dearest was mad at me Bc I didn't want her full time. He was in school not working and I was paying for everything, then I got his kid to take care of too. Mommy got fired from her job and there sd was at the door.
The 1.5 years she lived with us Dh didn't pay support (dumb and I told him so) and bm went to CS enforcement and told them he didn't pay!!!
So he owed her back support even tho she lived with us against my wishes.
I sure am. I get to be mad
I sure am. I get to be mad too. Who knows, maybe I will be one of those SMs who end up single... LOL!
She and HRNYC always have the
She and HRNYC always have the answers to everyone else's lives. I wonder what it's like in perfect stepmom land where they come from???
If she does complain again and it's too much for you to handle - do us all a favor and don't comment.
honestly ljcapp? i actually
honestly ljcapp? i actually agree w/ sue on this one.
lilfiredog, i'm so so so very sorry you are going through this. i just hope and pray that choosing to open the door to him doesnt backfire on you. there are sooo many ways that this can go wrong. ((hugs))
Yes, the list of rules IS
Yes, the list of rules IS pointless (as far as him following them), but I would still make it. If BM can kick him out for not following her rules, you can kick him out for not following yours. And we know he won't.
Since BM keeps texting YOU about this crap (and why is that?), take the reigns and do it your way. Which for me, would have been not letting him in but what's done is done. Does he have a key? That's the only reason I can think of as to why you let him in (or you are just nicer than me).
If he's truly a pothead, it won't be long before there is pot in your house.
Thank you for not replying to
Thank you for not replying to my sad ass posts anymore, they are long and hard to skip over. I get that you're all about tough love but some people come here in a time of crisis and your snarky bullshit isn't helpful it's just plain hateful.
We don't all control our husbands as you claim to do...
You say controlling like it's
You say controlling like it's a bad thing. :? When did taking control of your life become a bad thing????
Making it clear to your husband, SKs, BM, in-laws...that they will not use, disrespect, abuse...you, is not a bad thing. Making that they know when you say something you mean it, is not bad thing. Making your husband know that you love and respect yourself is not a bad thing. Making it clear to your husband that you aren't desperate for a man isn't controlling.