Ugh o/t as a BM . .
I know I'm probably being unreasonable and a crazy BM but I'm still upset
I offered my ex christmas eve with our daughter since my husband is offshore and we had christmas early. It was my understanding that I'd get christmas day. Well when I got up plans had apparently changed and my daughter's SM was throwing a fit stating that her parents had presents for my daughter and wanted her there . . .she was very disrespectful and overstepped majorly. I was very upset as I was by myself Christmas eve and my family was going to be down that she hasn't seen since last Christmas. But my daughter wanted to go and be with her step sister so I conceded so no drama would be caused. My ex just called me and said he was upset and I would be too. SM s family showered step sister in 15 plus gifts and got my daughter one gift. . .eh I've taught my 10 year old daughter to endure . . .BUT they told her she was being a brat because she wanted to go outside and play and they made her sit and watch step sister open presents like it was some production . . I talked to daughter and she says no big deal mom . . She's family . .I'm not . ..I'm pisses me off . . Why couldn't she stay with her own family instead of going over there to be treated like that? What was the point of step mom forcing her to go? As a child . . . That's gotta suck a little . .what the hell can I do or say? Stepmom has no problem overstepping . .I really wanna bitch her out . But I'm not . .
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So if your ex is upset what
So if your ex is upset what is he going to do about it?
Thata messed up at least
Thata messed up
at least your daughter is mature and didn't get to upset. But for theme to make her watch that is ridiculous! I don't see how adults can praise a child like that and completely disregard another.
My ex is going to do . . .
My ex is going to do . . . Absolutely nothing . . Honestly . .my ex still loves me . .tells everyone so. . .and tries hard to kiss my ass . .I try really hard to reasonable bc I know if I do fight hard enough I'll get my way . . . I promise I try really Really hard not to take advantage of this . . But it's probably why him and his wife have a fucked up relationship. I'm seriously thinking of saying my daughter isn't allowed to be around those asshole anymore. I understand that fair is not equal and blah blah blah but it just sounds like they were being assholes. . . There were other kids there too for this . .my daughter is upset bc she says she didn't want to tell me bc she didn't want to start anything . .
SM and her mother did this on
SM and her mother did this on purpose.
Since your ex has no problem telling folks he still loves you, his wife and MIL have to be aware of his true feelings. There's not a mother on the planet who wouldn't b3 livid knowing that her daughter is married to a man who is still fawning over another woman. I'm sure they hate you and your daughter. The best way to get at you is through your child.
Honestly,what SM married to a man who openly admits he still loves his exwife, would want extra time his love child? If anything,she would have been trying to find reasons for the kid to stay away.
Yup, I believe SM knew darn well what her mother was going to do.
Wow! That is no way to treat
Wow! That is no way to treat a 10 year old child. I do not understand what their point was. I am getting ticked off just sitting here reading your post. Why did your ex not step in and do something to stop this non-sense while it was happening? Give your daughter a big hug from the rest of us. And be proud of how mature she is. She handled herself well.
Ugh this is so hard. . . I
Ugh this is so hard. . . I feel so petty and nasty for putting emphasis on material things. I'm mad at myself bc I'm seething. I'm afraid I'm being a crazy BM. Is it ok to interject? Ugh my poor kid gets it on both sides too . . In my hubby's family his son . .my SS is the obvious favorite. My mil even says so in front of my daughter and all her other grand children. My hubby always steps in appropriately though and we limit contact. She can't catch a break. I never wanted a divorce . . I never wanted to raise children like this.
Your the mom. Were they being
Your the mom. Were they being unkind and abusive? That is the question you need to ask yourself. If the answer is truly yes....make a change for the betterment of your child. Simple.
That's just cruel. Was your
That's just cruel. Was your stepmom's name Petunia Dursley?
Why do you think her daughter
Why do you think her daughter is playing both sides? The OP said her ex told her what occurred with SM's mom. The child
l had decided not to tell her mom what happened.
Actually, she can tell him
Actually, she can tell him she does not want the kid around his inlaws. Of course he's free to ignore her request. However, after the stunt SM and MIL just pulled, be may very well agree with the OP.
I can't help but wonder why in the world the SM is staying with a man who loves another woman???? :?
I agree that regardless of
I agree that regardless of how this happened... whether it is the kid playing Mom and Dad against each other, intentional on SM's behalf, or not... this is for the Dad to handle and Mom needs to butt out.
There's nothing wrong with a
There's nothing wrong with a parent protecting his/her child. Dad is the one who involved mom. He opened the door and has welcomed mom's involvement. This isn't the same as a child running to mom to complain about SM and BM rushing in to save the day.
Clearly both parents are upset by SM's actions.
THIS
THIS