I posted last week about BM needing a before and after school sitter and how I didn't really want to do it, and you guys helped me see all the reasons it was a really terrible idea.

I got a taste of just how right you were this morning. BM had a funeral so last minute she asked FDH to take SD overnight last night. I agreed. You can't schedule death, fair enough.

Sometime between 6 and 9 PM they changed their plans (without consulting me, the one who actually does the morning run) to dropping SD off before school. They decided to drop her off early, way before school starts and before I usually get up.

My mom had a minor surgery today and I had agreed to help her out. She had actually scheduled it for a day I didn't have SD. I had to get up early for SD on an already stressful day, and to arrange for another family member to pick SD up from school.

BM had SD dropped off (by someone else) an hour after she said she would, and 3 minutes before we usually leave for school. School is 2 minutes from each house, in the middle. She could have been taken to school instead! No explanation, no warning, no apology.

If I wasn't on No Contact with BM after she told me I needed to go through SD's underwear and remove the ones that are too small, I would have said, "I was doing you a favor, and it won't happen again."

I did say that to FDH. He's done signing me up for shit. I am officially unavailable for unscheduled appearances. If he doesn't consult me first, she's not coming.