Recap: SD4 is in H care for 6 months, then goes back to her mom for 6 months. While in his care, SD4 oovoos with her mom twice a week. BM is in Germany so they are a day ahead. We all went to my sisters for the weekend. It was Saturday our time, Sunday BMs time which was also Mother's Day. H prepped SD4 as usual they days when she needs to talk to BM. Before BM and BMH called to skype, H even reminded SD4 it was Mother's Day in Germany. He put her on a quiet room like usual and we all left her alone. What happened after that was out of our hands. SD4 came out of the room a couple Of times. One time was her needing to poop and H told her she can take the phone with her. I helped her on the toilet (she likes privacy and calls is when she's done). She shouted for H, he cleaned her up and sent her back in the room.BM and BMH got a good 20mins with her. SD4 wasn't fully involved because she wanted to play. This happens to us as well. IT happens!! We don't complain. We take what we can.

This is an email my husband got shortly after BM hung up with SD4

" This is BMH e-mailing you,

It's very upsetting that of all days in the year, Mother's Day you decide not to have SD4 at home to talk to her Mom. We had to experience a very bad oovoo session and now I am certain that she is upset as a result of it. It's becoming common place that SD4 is not at home, without distractions for video sessions and it's getting to the point where it's very bad. You can see the way that she acts when she is taken away from that setting and made to talk on oovoo and while it's not completely against the parenting plan it is a lack of regard for her Mom. She is about to come over here to Germany soon and I'm certain you would appreciate the same respect that we are asking for, so keep that in mind when you create a detrimental situation for communication between her and her Mother on Mother's Day. We are asking for you to give us the respect of providing a good experience during these times. When she was here, aside from the time we visited my family in the US, she was always at home and in the same exact setting for her oovoo time so that she didn't have any problems with wanting to talk. We almost always had her eat dinner before, brought her home and had her in a quiet room for oovoo sessions so that there were no distractions. You are going to do whatever you are going to do but we are letting you know that we would appreciate a little bit of respect. If you plan on responding to this e-mail in a negative way then there is no reason to because this is just a request. Maybe you can think about how something like a Mother's Day session like this would impact the way SD4 Mother feels. BM has already gone to bed and doesn't know that I am writing this but you should just think about what I've written here.

Thanks"

This is bull. They act like they are so perfect. They get upset when they can't get an hour with SD4. Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. We went through the same thing! Their response was "she is a child". So take your own fucking advice. I tell SD4, show your mommy what you made. She says no. We even tell her things to tell her mom like what she did that day, if she tried something new or ate something new. SD4 doesn't want to. Sometimes she doesn't want to talk to them at all. H sits her down and tells her she's gotta talk cuz they miss her just like he misses her when she's with them. I feel like this email was out of line and not intended for a good reason.