Sorry this is a stupid article. You cannot support a child on gifts. Air Jordan's are not support. Go to Walmart and get several pairs of shoes for the same price as one pair of Jordans, that is supporting a child.

A happy meal is a treat not a meal. Cook your child dinner. Work more than one job in order to provide. Sounds to me like the guy they are referring to in the article is a DISNEY DAD! Like that will help his precious 12 year old "baby girl" in her future. It is all superficial and materialistic. It has no real value and will teach her to be shallow and materialistic.

The whole thing did not sit right with me. Golly, a whole happy meal once a week and some dresses? I want to do that a be called a provider.

And where is the mention of MOMS that don't pay CS? I love how we as a society still are stuck in the mode that moms get the kids and the dads are the dead beats. Denture Debbie has not paid a single dime of CS. Pisses me off.

The article is antiquated at best. The author does not understand what it means to support a child as well.

I have lots of conflicting emotions after reading this.

I have family experience with a guy who only worked under the table so he wouldn't have to pay child support. It wouldn't be hard to guess my opinion of him.

And on the other side, I worked in schools (for years) where intact families and two parent (step) families were not the norm. Most kids rarely saw their absent parent, but when they did it made a huge difference in them. The longing for the absent parent is ingrained.

All in all I see contact as a positive thing.

I must be very grumpy. This whole thing is just getting me so aggravated.

My ex works under the table so he can get away with little CS. So hubby and I have to make up for it.

Denture Debbie is a shit loser who pays zero CS, so hubby and I have to make up for it.

These people have still gotten to see thier kids. So......they need good, shelter, transportation, power, water.....but thier own fuckin off spring don't????? They have access to the children they don't work thier ass off for. Pisses me off.

People deserve food, but not the kids they make. They don't need to worry about feeding them because someone else will do the job for them. Such bullshit.

...my then fiance went to file to pay child support.  The courts said that never happens.

It isn't that he wasn't supporting his child, they had "an arrangement".  And that "arrangement" meant that she could call whenever for whatever and it was outrageous.  I told him WE can't live like that and that he needed to file.  So he did.  Thankfully too, his mother had him keep meticulous records of what he had given her because EVERY woman who goes to file claims "he's never did anything" and so did she.

The child support was much less than the cash he had been doling out, and that also meant she couldn't call whenever,  whyever for whatever. That was step 1, of you aren't running our household.  But, that is his child and you can't say "I'm not buying him zip because I am paying child support".  

Later down the road, the childs mother began to reform because she was 'shut out' of our household, and yes that can be done.  Instead of hopping on the "my baby daddy" train, she got married and had her next child.  There is a lot that articles can't explain because it is often someone who has no real life skills just like the one who wrote that one and it's evident when she said "she searched for these people".