Vacation
So BM is taking SD5 on vacation for a week or two in July, last year they had a fight that ended up going to their lawyers about vacation and DH not wanting BM to take her unless she agreed to 50/50 custody (she wont cause of a bunch of excuses and no actual reason, had a rant about that in another post lol) She ended up taking her last year for a week and a half and DH started smoking again after being quit for almost a year. BM has a history of running away from her problems and her and her bf were in a major fight around her vaca last year. DH is afraid she wont come back with SD5.
This time around there was no lawyers, or anything SD5 is going on Vacation with her BM with the strong note that DH wants to take her on a little vaca of his own later the summer. hopefully everything works out this summer. Its not my fight but I know how much DH loves his little princess and it hurts him when BM plays her little game, and i hurt as i want whats best for SD5 and she is a daddy's girl all the way.
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Why is it a "game" that BM
Why is it a "game" that BM wants to take her daughter on a vacation? She has just as much right to vacation with her child as your DH does.
not the vacation, custody is,
not the vacation, custody is, keeping her from spending equal time with her dad.
There's alot of backstory
There's alot of backstory here i didn't get into, like how BM took SD5 and wouldn't let DH see her at all and no one could get a hold of her for weeks, no lawyers, not CPS, no one. and she wouldn't say who her babysitter was even after DH offered to pay for half of the babysitter. (so we speculate that she was left with someone who wasn't appropriate (someone who is high all the time and such) or left alone in the house with a TV as she didn't know how to talk when she finally was reunited with DH, when before she could talk circles around everyone...
and that situation with the 50/50 and vacation was temporary resolved, I should have worded it better. Me and DH lawyer told him he went about it the wrong way, he is stubborn but the stuff with BM has been going on since SD5 was 2, DH just got frustrated and wanted to do what she has been doing to him the whole time. He has calmed down a lot and is willing to jump through every hoop she throws to get 50/50!
I should have mentioned all this in my original post. Vacation is no issue its my DH's concern she wont return that got me worried
Seriously, it sounds like you
Seriously, it sounds like you guys are trying to drum up drama where none exists. OF COURSE most mothers want their children with them most of the time. Wouldn't you?
Not saying 50/50 should not be pursued, but the fact that she desires primary custody doesn't make her a bad person.... it makes her NORMAL. Maybe if y'all dealt with it that way, it wouldn't be quite so contentious.