I know enough to know that when there is some sort of conflict (especially in a divorce that is continuously high-conflict) it is important to document, document, document. So, this is what I cam going to use this space for. The little and not-so-little things that BM is doing on a continual basis in her PAS campaign.

Yesterday, SS14 was not feeling well. We encouraged him to go to school anyways - this is his first term of high school and in a semestered system, you miss a LOT even in one to two days away. He started off the day and then was feeling worse, so he wanted to go home. What does he do? He calls his BM - he says because he knew his dad was unavailable to answer the phone while at work. BM then gets her mom (biograndmom) to pick him up and take him to her place. When his sister gets out of school (she goes to a different school) he calls her and tells her to go to biograndmom's as well.

Fiance was really upset when he found out - because this is not what is supposed to happen. On weeks with dad, they are to call dad in situations like that - who could then call his mom, or me, and we'd figure it out. And vice-versa on BM's weeks.

Something is not right with SS14, it is like he was playing dumb/naive. But he's not a dumb/naive kid, so I'm not buying it.

Fiance talked with them and reminded them of what they should be doing in these situations. He was low-key about it, not in the least bit upset or angry...because SS14 rolls his eyes whenever confronted with the reality of his mom's manipulations (a la hockey the other day).

Later that evening, I asked him to check with his mom about babysitting for my friend on the weekend. He says he wants to do it, because like any teen he wants money, money, money. She is flexible about the time, she just wants to get out and do some groceries and errands for a couple of hours. He calls BM from the other room, then comes back and says it won't work out because they are going to a movie. HELLO, like ALL DAY? I remind him that the time is totally flexible- and then to find out what the specific plans are so that he can work the babysitting around that. He calls BM again. Then he comes back and says he doesn't know what time they are going - but that the only time listed for that day is 4:30 pm. I say to him, look, if you don't want to do it, that's ok - but let us know now as it is the courteous thing to do. No, no, I want to do it, he says. So he calls BM again (!) and she says it is fine for him to do it earlier in the day.

This should not have taken three phone calls. Again, it is a combination of him playing dumb/naive and his general attitude of entitlement - like him agreeing to do the babysitting is a favour to my friend. The reality there are a bunch of babysitters she can choose from, lol, who would jump at the offer of easy money.

I am predicting that somehow, it is going to fall through because BM will find a way to sabotage it. She doesn't want the them to have anything special or good through us...and if she senses we are on to something good she will lie and manipulate to ruin it.