H was with BM for 8 years. He knew BM's younger brothers before he knew her. H step brother was best friends with BMs brothers since elementary school. H is about 6-7 years older than the guys. So, H is a big part of her family. BMs brother have also been working for my FIL for years. Even before I was in the picture. Because of all the things that were happening between BM and H during their divorce, BMs family backed away. They felt of was getting to be too much that they felt the less they knew, the easier to deal with. But for the things they did know. They told H everything.

A few weeks ago, H drop SD5 to BM family house for a bday party. She stayed there almost all day. I stayed home while H went to pick her up that night. I knew he was going to take a while because he hasn't seen them in so long. They all have kids and grown so they were catching up.

They told H how they feel bad for every doubting him. They shouldn't know that BM was lying the whole time. She told them lies that he was fooling around with a bunch of women, how she caught him in bed with someone, that H hit her and she cut her wrist, she had to fight in court for the car..All kinds of crazy stuff.

BM actually cuz her wrist because she was fight with H and because he was trying to take SD out of the house and away from the situation, she started throwing glass and cut her wrist. Even BMs SIL were bothered about BM. They told H, they don't agree with how things have been going, but they are behind H. The SIL told H what made them feel differently about BM. BM was always talking shit about H. One day while talking BM said she couldn't wait till she was divorced so she can get married and take SD away. One of the SIL asked why would she do that and it's messed up to just take SD away. BM did not like that. BM flipped out and told them it was none of their business. (BM did get married 47 days after the divorce was final). BM started to distance herself from everyone.

BMs brother also told H that the first day BM brought her husband (boyfriend then), no body liked him.BMH started talking shit about H. All the guys told him that he didn't have to talk that way to fit in, but BMH kept going on how he can't believe that H doesn't want to be part of SD life. How he never wants to help BM. The guys all looked at him like "wtf are you talking about".

BM only talks to her mom because she's the only one who supports BMs decisions. No one really talks to BM because when they try to call her BM says she's too busy or BMH tries to talk for BM. They said that they do see a difference in her. They see how BMH has control over everything and BM has no back bone. BM came to the states to pick SD up and her siblings didn't even know because BM told her mom to not tell them. None of them like BMH. They said they may smile in the pictures, but they don't like how BM and BMH don't make an effort to make the situation better.

All this just confirms a lot of our feelings. I told H that the only reason why BMH acts like a dick to him is because BM has to be putting shit in his ear. Every time BMH is around, the tone is different. I know that H and BM can be cool, but I really feel like BMH has some insecurities he needs to get over.

Also the idea came up that we feel BM is going to try and stay overseas as long as she can to stay away from everyone. And this isn't the first time BMs sibling told H things. We believe it, but what can we really do with this info? Nothing..