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Summer visitation just got interesting

momjeans's picture

My husband called me from work to inform me that FIL was arrested this morning for driving under the influence and endangering a minor. Apparently, he fell asleep at the wheel in route to taking SK to bible camp. He hit a tree in someone's yard at low speed, I'm told. Both of them are physically fine, thankfully.

I can only assume the under the influence charge is his RX use. I consider it abuse, but wtf do I know.

FIL takes a mountain of pills, daily. Some for pain, ADD, smoking cessation and a sleep aid. I suspect it's the Ambien. Or OxyContin. Could be something else entirely. He has at least a dozen prescribed RXs.

Here's where it gets sticky. MIL works, DH works, FIL is retired and I'm not allowed to be around SK alone, per BM. Why? I do not know. I was "cleared" years ago as a "safe person" by their court appointed family therapist. I've never been arrested. Blah blah blah. It's just high-conflict, throwing her weight around BS. It's definitely one of the reasons I ultimately disengaged.

Also, when BM finds out, I'm guessing heads are going to roll.

Have you seen that meme image of Kermit the Frog sitting back and sipping tea? Yeah, that's totally me at the moment.

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Teas83's picture

I feel for you. It sounds like BM has put you through the wringer the same way that mine did. I was also "not allowed" to be alone with SD, according to BM. She had me investigated by CPS and caused all kinds of other problems for me. It's also one of the reasons I disengaged.

Keep us posted on this situation with FIL.

momjeans's picture

Oh yes! It's popcorn time indeed.

Is it bad that I feel like I hold all the cards at the moment?

ALL of them have enabled this cluster cuss regarding visitation and BMs dictation of it. I gave-up a long time ago. I foresee MIL singing a different tune around me starting now. But, still... whatever. I'm just an innocent bystander in all of this AND I like it that way.

bearcub25's picture

Don't let them all of a sudden say....Sure SM you can help transport now that we are in a bind. Not your job to clean up their mess. Make BM or DH figure it out.

Amcc13's picture

I will joint you at the table sipping tea. The results of this will be very interesting to see and hear
I reckon if you are cleared by court she doesn't have a leg to stand on tho