BM text me
About an hour ago...
BM: Hoping to start outpatient next week. I am ok.
BM: SS is really very mad at me, huh? I can't get in touch with him
Me: Probably. I can only assume though. He sees your text. He chooses not to reply
BM: Please tell him I love him
Me: Prove it to him. Go get clean. I assume your words mean nothing to him anymore
BM: All this week I have been trying to get shit done. I swear I have. It was the worst of my life. Not speaking to him is killing me
Me: Don't worry about him. He is happy, healthy and enjoying being a kid
BM: Thank you, I needed to hear that.
Me:I don't know what your texts to DH about HAVING to talk to him yesterday were all about. But I will tell you this, not saying anything at all is better than saying something and not doing it. It makes you look bad. If you are going to get help, go do it. Don't make a show out of it. Just do it quietly and come back healthy. Then we will talk about working you back in to SS's life.
BM: OK
Yeah... she's not ready to get help. I know that sounds harsh, but I really am rooting for her to get better. I just don't see her being ready yet.
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Oh she's going to continue
Oh she's going to continue getting high, like really high, until she's in there. The "last horrahs"! Good for you saying what you did in the end, very well said.
She isn't ready. And, she
She isn't ready. And, she won't be for a long time.
You will know she's ready when you get communication from her IN a program, and not merely thinking about one.
And even then, there are no guarantees that she will be able to stay clean.
Meth is very, very hard to beat. Statistically, more don't make it out than do...
I have read up on it. 7% stay
I have read up on it. 7% stay clean. SEVEN PERCENT.
Something tells me she isn't ready to be a part of that very SMALL club.
Outpatient? She needs a lot
Outpatient? She needs a lot more than outpatient.
I know. I told her that last
I know. I told her that last week when she told me she wanted to get "outpatient". I told her that's not enough, she needs to go away for treatment.
oh bull crap that aint gonna
oh bull crap that aint gonna work at all. even dumb@$$ quietly tried IN-patient for a few weeks. and that was *several* years ago. nuh uh. outpatient wont to jack for a meth addict. h3ll, INpatient rarely does.
LOL... it's rare that I hear
LOL... it's rare that I hear from her anymore. I'd rather her text me than SS. I just roll my eyes and move on with life.
I'm starting to think that
I'm starting to think that when she texts you asking about him because she likes it when you say "don't worry about him" or "he's doing fine;" those are words she wants to hear so she can go binge again.
I got that feeling today too.
I got that feeling today too. What kind of mom thanks someone for telling them not to worry about their kid they are better off without you (in not so many words)...?
What kind of mother does
What kind of mother does that? A mother who want to assuage her guilt before she goes off on her next bender.
I highly recommend that you cut off contact with her. You are moving perilously close to becoming her enabler again, and I know that's not something you want to do.
to methmom: Your son is doing
to methmom:
Your son is doing great. Please do not ruin his life by bringing your drug issues to him. He's a great kid and does not need to witness your drug addiction issues. Call us if you ever get clean and sober.
I was thinking this just last
I was thinking this just last night.
Cocktail you're up late?
Cocktail you're up late?