BM hits a new personal low
At the beginning of the summer my SD18 went to spend the summer with my brother in law who lives in a very touristy area to wait tables and make as much money as possible for her upcoming freshman year of college.
BM one day after SD18 leaves for the summer gets evicted from her rental home (after she had been evicted from the trailer for never paying the mortgage after 5 plus years) and moves to Indiana with her so called husband whom she has been cheating on for the past year. Did she tell SD18? Nope. SD18 found out because she received a call from her school saying that she is $6,000 short on tuition. That is the amount that BM had promised to pay each year. SD18 has two small grants/scholarships and we committed a small amount.
BM never told SD18 that she is not going to pay for school. We now have 18 days to come up with $6,000 (she is applying for loans). I cannot even fathom how this women lives with herself sometimes. Not only do you move without telling your daughter who you have spoken to throughout the summer but to not even mention about the $6000! When SD18 asked her about it she told her that she needs to figure it out on her own and she refuses to help.
If she would have told us months ago she doesn't have the money then we would have taken care of it right away. Instead she isn't honest with her and keeps her thinking everything is taken care of. What kind of POS does this to her own kid?
For years she was telling SD18 that its DH's fault she has terrible credit and no money after the divorce. It was always DH fault she couldn't get a better car or a new house because he somehow ruined her credit. Well it's been 15 years since the divorce and she can no longer blame DH for her lack of credit and money. She opened two vape stores which are not doing well enough to support her and her family. During this time she was also receiving between $500 and $600 in CS.
After she was evicted from the trailer she decided to rent a home right on the water. I can't imagine that it was cheap. Nothing right on the water in her area is.
What gets to me is that before all of this at the beginning of summer SD18 was telling us how proud she was of her BM for having a nice house now, working really hard at the vape shop, and she was going to help pay for her college.
I can't even with this white trash piece of crap today.
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Hopefully SD will be able to
Hopefully SD will be able to work something out. There are lots of resources out there. Can she sit out a semester and continue working to try to make up some of the difference if it comes to that?
BM just needs to be written off. Obviously she thinks she is done with obligations to her child, as child has hit 18 (which many people here agree with, I'm not one of them).
I'm not sure given BM's
I'm not sure given BM's history of not paying bills that I would even have trusted when BM said she was going to pay $6000.
I was always weary of this as
I was always weary of this as well but SD18 was positive that BM was paying. BM once told SD18 that she opened the Vape shop as a way to pay for her college. I don't blame SD18 too much she really wanted to believe her BM and for years she has been told that BM is working so hard so she can pay for her college.
I guess all kids do this. My
I guess all kids do this.
My own BS does this with his dad. They are going to travel the world. They are going to rebuild an old car into a new one. I sit there and listen to my BS tell me these stories and I smile and nod all while I'm thinking, Yeah right this isn't ever going to happen. Poor kid is only 11 and in a few short years he's going to realize the truth and it's really going to break my heart for him.
LOL it's ok Sally. If SD18
LOL it's ok Sally.
If SD18 was a horrible brat I would say F it also. She is applying for loans today and we have told her to come up with a game plan and we will work with her.
In the future I will shut down any attempts at SD18 telling us how great her BM is. I will no longer listen to that crap.
BM does this with her kids
BM does this with her kids too. She had OSD18 convinced that she had guaranteed college admission and free tuition because BM had attended that college. I tried to convince SD18 that it wasn't accurate, and showed her all the requirements in print on the website. Her mom convinced her it was unpublished, and only the special people who knew to ask got it, and not the suckers who follow the rules. SD18 decided to get C's and D's throughout HS, since she didn't have to study since she had guaranteed admission and free tuition. Needless to say, she was denied admission at her college of choice. Yet, she still believed BM when BM then told her she would get free tuition at community college, and SD18 refused to fill out the FAFSA, since she didn't need aid. When SD18 got the tuition bill (on July 2nd) she was shocked that the community college wasn't waiving her tuition. Luckily she earned enough working this summer to pay it, but she still is mad at the college for "screwing up" than her mom for lying.
Even after seeing all this play out, YSD15 is still convinced by BM that when she graduates, she has guaranteed admission and free tuition to Stanford Law school, because she is in the honors program.
Holy hell...... that's really
Holy hell......
that's really all I got.
And yeah, of COURSE it was the community college who screwed up and not her lying POS BM.
*ginormous eyeroll here*
It's amazing what these BM's
It's amazing what these BM's are capable of. Free tuition to Stanford Law? Wow
I can see BioHo pulling this
I can see BioHo pulling this kind of craptastic money act. For YEARS, she told the skids that my DH didn't give her enough money and to ask him for more. Ha. He was living paycheck to paycheck because he paid so much! SD20 used to come over beeyotching at DH the he needed to give 'Ho more money because SD NEEDED $120 jeans or $150 'cool' boots. It all came to a screeching halt almost 2 years ago when SDthen18 found out exactly how much 'Ho was getting. And since SD is just like her mother, she brought the hammer down on 'Ho's wallet.
But 'Ho will never move and not tell her children. FFS, she actually FORBADE her oldest daughter (who is 23) from moving 4 hours away. I wish 'Ho would move 4 light years away.