Oh the things that happen when you disengage!
So, I've been practicing keeping my mouth shut and letting DH handle parenting with SS17. I've been doing pretty good at it now for about a year. Here's the result:
SS is going on his 3rd week of going to the dentist because he has so many cavities they can't fill them all in one or two appointments.
SS failed 2 classes and at some point will need to make them up.
SS didn't have a job this summer even though I was told while he was away at his grandparents he would be working his little heart out!
I give up. At what point does DH get his head out of his a$$ and parent?
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I don't know that some of
I don't know that some of them ever step up or wake up. It's frustrating for sure.
I too hoped disengaging would make DH take notice and parent SD, but he hasn't much. Not until I finally had a fit about her failing math did he say a word to her about it. He would have let it slide had I not. I mean, WTF? I don't get them, I don't understand parents who just look the other way. Thus my constant frustration with him and his lousy parenting.
I have had to prod my DH at
I have had to prod my DH at times to keep after his girls in the past. Basically his thing was that since the kids weren't with us FT, he felt like he didn't want to spend all his time "disciplining" the girls. Don't get me wrong, he did do a lot, but sometimes, he just felt like it wasn't a battle that needed to be fought. I would sometimes disagree and think something was more important, but hey, his kids, his decision. As long as it didn't negatively impact me, I let him make the call.
SD is with us FT, so someone
SD is with us FT, so someone has to parent her. He's too lazy, too laid back to do much of anything. When I do finally speak up, he comes back with "oh you're just not happy until she's grounded for xxx." STUPID argument, for sure.
^^^^^^ LMAO, that's damn
^^^^^^ LMAO, that's damn funny. "Wouldn't you watch everyone else's parents go to work and look at your fat mom laying in bed all day and wonder what's up?"
I know I would have, but these skids? Apparently not.
I totally don't get it. At
I totally don't get it. At ALL. This emoji says it all. It's my fave. :jawdrop:
the kid is almost an adult.
the kid is almost an adult. it's not gonna happen OP....
Never. Even though Puke
Never. Even though Puke (SD16) doesn't come for visits any more DH still refuses to parent. For example, Puke is enrolled in online high school and hasn't done any work since May. Puke tells him that she's been doing work recently but has no interest in checking on if she is.
DH is notorious for taking Puke's word for it and then finds out later she lied to him. But that's ok with him.
It's worse now that he rarely sees Puke in the sense he says or does nothing to ever upset her.