BM requested "mediation". I can't believe they actually granted her request since the judge has made it clear that nothing will change until she completes rehab, and SS is old enough to decide for himself what kind of relationship he wants with her. But we did receive notice of mediation, so we will go... waste of time, but we don't want to give any reason for a judge to think we aren't making every effort to do the right thing. Should be interesting. SS's thoughts on it... "what does she think she is going to get out of this?". He doesn't have to be there, in fact I scheduled for him to go up to BM's parents house that day/ evening so he would be occupied and not have to even think about it.

SS doesn't answer BM's calls. Mind you she has only called ONCE in the past month. He put her to VM and deleted it before he even listened to it. He doesn't respond to her texts. He told me he doesn't even want to see her name in his phone, he deletes them all.

After a failed attempt to talk to him, and a few unanswered texts yesterday, BM text DH. We haven't heard from her in a long time... and DH NEVER responds to her so I don't know what her goal is. Yesterday wasn't any different. She text him, he ignored.

"I don't understand why you are not letting me see SS"
"If you were a good dad you would make him talk to me, I am his mother"

Now, had she sent that to me, I would have had a hay day... I would have taken the opportunity to tell her that if she was ANY kind of a "mother" we wouldn't HAVE to MAKE him talk to you, he would want to, and he doesn't. So there's that.

"Mediation" should be interesting. I really think it was an oversight by the court system that she was even able to schedule it. We will not be mediating ANYTHING. Had a talk with SS to make sure his feelings hadn't changed and he still wasn't wanting to see her, he said "I don't even care about that at all, I do NOT want to see her". He's still pretty mad that she stopped rehab.