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Dreading conference time

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Submitted by Sweet T on Sun, 02/05/2017 - 8:34pm

I hate conferences as we attend together. My ex and I are going to court next month because he refuses to acknowledge the cs review and because I was stupid and agreed not to go through the state for payment I had to have my attorney file, now he stopped paying period.

We don't speak to each other and only communicate via email or text because he makes things up. It is stressful for me, but I do my best to act like it isn't for bs.

Omg I wish his wife came with to these. He acts normal around her. Not so nasty digs at me.

Today when we were walking the dog bs said he wished I could hang out with small because he thought if we spent time together we would be friends. ...sad thing is he is right. She is very nice and treats bs so well.

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Sweet T's picture

Submitted by Sweet T on Mon, 02/06/2017 - 7:51am

The only reason I have not pushed is because I am more afraid of the lies he would try and tell with me not in the room.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 02/06/2017 - 8:08am

What could be the lies and how could the lies affect you?

You can't control what other people say.

I'm guessing though BS's teachers will see right through any lies, especially once they see what a good parent you are.

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Mon, 02/06/2017 - 8:02am

So this is school conference then? It's good BS is building a good relationship with SM. If she assists BS on projects and homework on Dad's time, perhaps she would like to sit in? BS could issue an invite , that he's like her to meet his teacher if she's interested. She might be. At least she may be pleased BS is trying to include her in his little world, even if she can't make it to conference.

Curious...you got along well with ex's first wife and all the skids and now BS believes you and SM would like each other. How does your ex keep drawing all these kind, caring women. LOL. IIRC he's no prize.

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Submitted by Sweet T on Mon, 02/06/2017 - 8:12am

Actually Step dad and I are the ones that do the homework with BS9. He sees his dad EOweekend and holidays. Even when we were married I was the one who did the homework. My ex has never been the kind to be involved with the heavy lifting with any of the kids.

Sm is interesting, she is very good to BS but is gone every Saturday almost all day long. She spends the day with her bestie and they have a sleep over. When the older boys are there she is gone pretty much all weekend. She is 44 and has never had children or step kids so I am sure this is a huge adjustment for her.

She is very nice and seems kind of innocent/immature. I am not sure who the freaking loonatic keeps landing nice caring women. He is a master manipulator that is for sure. I am sure if I spent time with SM or met her under different situation we would be friends. I am glad that BS likes her so much and I have told him so. When he said that to me about being friends with her, I told him how glad I am that he has such a great step mom and that he always needs to be good to her.