Sd wins again
I just can not stand this little bitch and how she ruined my relationship with my son. Sd doesn't allow me in their home and won't allow my son to bring my grand baby to see me. Well my granddaughter is turning 1 and sd is going to have her 1st birthday party at her house so I am not allowed to attend. Bs's dad and sm are going along with bm and her husband. Dh said he wanted to go but I don't know if he will since I can't. I've only seen my granddaughter twice in person and both times it was cut short because sd had a back ache or was tired of sitting in the restaurant. This isn't fair and my son is to whipped to stop this. I hate her!!!
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I know it is. I've talked to
I know it is. I've talked to his dad and sm about it and they just say his wife really hates you. Well, I really hate her to! I missed out on so many of my grand babies first and now I am going to miss her first birthday. I offered to ds to pay for a Chuck E Cheese party or whatever sd wanted so I could go but sd wants a small party at home. BULLSHIT!! She just wants to rub it in my nose that I can't go.
So what does "SD" mean to
So what does "SD" mean to you?? I think this is where I am confused. Certainly your step daughter is not married to you son?? :?
I am just as confused as you
I am just as confused as you are.....
It means step daughter. I am
It means step daughter. I am trying to link my former posts to you. She married him alright and turned him into her whipping boy.
oh for the love of Pete...
oh for the love of Pete... why do I get sucked into this crapola??
I am out...
I am out...
I'm confused
I'm confused :?
Pretty sure this is another
Pretty sure this is another tale tale from a very prolific author.
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It's what nightmares are made
It's what nightmares are made of
Yes and sd has only let me
Yes and sd has only let me see her twice.
Wasn't the baby only 3 months
Wasn't the baby only 3 months old in August? :?
Yes and she is already saying
Yes and she is already saying i can't be apart of the party!
I wanted to make reservations
I wanted to make reservations some where I could go and that has to be done in advance. Sd said no!
I wanted to make reservations
I wanted to make reservations where I would be allowed to go. I'm trying to respect that sd doesn't want me in her home and so I wanted to make other arrangements.
You aren't understanding.
You aren't understanding. This is my grand baby and my son. I've been cut off from them because of her. If the party is outside her house then I can go. She is just doing this to be hateful.
No she wants to throw her
No she wants to throw her child's first birthday where she wants. You way overstepped thinking you could make reservations for the venue. You need to quit worrying about your SD and focus on your son.
My son says he wants me
My son says he wants me involved but he has to think of his wife. That is why I am not involved. It's her!
Bs. If your son wanted you
Bs. If your son wanted you involved you would be. How are all the men around you spineless? Maybe you shouldn't have banned SD. She could have taught both your husband and son how to grow a backbone. Lol. She's got brass ovaries.
Reservations for what? The
Reservations for what? The birthday party? That would be for the parents of the child to do not you.
I don't have control over
I don't have control over anything. I am the one getting pushed away and sidelined. I made sure that sd and dh had a good relationship. I made sure of that! This is how she repays me! I asked about 1st birthday plans so we could get reservations some where and she made bs tell me she was having it at home and no I can't go in her house!
There wasn't laughter and
There wasn't laughter and joy. I refused to raise my child in a violent environment so she wasn't allowed back. This is just her being a bitch!
Your child married this
Your child married this violent person. There is nothing you can do but butt out and see if they eventually come around.
You are probably making
You are probably making things worse. They are showing you clearly they want nothing to do with you. You should probably go slow and try to rebuild your relationship with them both before trying to arrange birthday parties and whatnot.
I tried. I have tried
I tried. I have tried everything. Sd refuses to make any effort and my son is caught in the middle. Every time he stands up to her she cries and takes the baby to her moms. He is afraid of not seeing his dd that I get pushed back.
You can't force someone to
You can't force someone to accept you into their life. If she's a bitch and hates you then you need to prepare yourself for the fact you may not have a relationship with your grandchild. In addition, you are very quick to just blame her but your son is an adult and going along with it. You think he's afraid of not seeing his child but he may actuallt agree with her. It's vindictive to throw a 12 year old out of a home and maybe and honestly he's going aling with his wife much like her father went along with you. If I'm getting the story right.
He calls me at least once a
He calls me at least once a week and we have lunch or dinner once a month. He wants his wife to get over this and she won't.
She won't let him and he says
She won't let him and he says he won't lie to his wife.
I tried everything to have a
I tried everything to have a relationship with sd and she refuses. Yes she is now a little bitch for keeping me from my family. She invites everyone but me to see grand baby. Everyone got to see her at Christmas except for me because sd decided to have Christmas at her house. I have been nothing but sweet and supportive but no more. She wants to keep my grand baby from me I may just start keeping her dad from her and see how she likes it.
Was she allowed to come to
Was she allowed to come to Christmas at your house when she was growing up?
Until she was violent she
Until she was violent she was. After that dh spent time with her just not at our house.
So you banned SD from you
So you banned SD from you house because you feel she was physically violent and now she is banning you from her house because she feels you are emotionally violent. Seems like you taught her how to treat people she doesn't like.
I wish we had a like button
I wish we had a like button
So you're still vindictive?
So you're still vindictive? Wow. This is incredibly silly and vicious. Do you think you can keep you husband away from his grandchild and his daughter? That would not be a man I'd want to be married to. The fact you'd actually want to do that speaks volumes. I'd keep my child away from you too.
We will see how smug she is
We will see how smug she is when her dad no longer has the time to go see her.
He shouldn't be going
He shouldn't be going somewhere his wife isn't allowed anyway.
And your grandbaby shouldn't
And your grandbaby shouldn't be around someone that clearly hates her mother.
Don't forget to come back and
Don't forget to come back and let us know how that goes!
Hi. I don't know your back
Hi.
I don't know your back story, I am pretty new to this site. I am not going to judge you for whatever went on in the past, I wasn't there.
The only thing i can say is that really, there is nothing you can do. She is the mother of that baby, it is her show to run. I know that must hurt your feelings and I am sorry for that. You will need to take care of your side of the street and if someday she changes her mind that is great. Pushing things just makes you look worse, I am afraid.
Try to concentrate on your own life and leave them to live theirs. It sucks but it is your only option.
ETA: You can't keep her dad from her, he will make that decision, not you.
@Morrimom...Lol...I coughed
@Morrimom...Lol...I coughed up my vitamin, it hurt but that was funny.
it's not cautionary. This
it's not cautionary. This isn't over. She can cry to bs and keep me away, well guess what?? I can cry to my husband about how she hurt me and keep her away!
Seriously, you are playing a
Seriously, you are playing a losing hand. DNA has a strong pull and your SD has learned the game from you. You forced her to grow up knowing that at a word you could have her forced from the house. This vindictive streak of yours didn't just show up. In all likelihood this is who you are, how you think and how you act. You've played your hand a decade ago and now she doesn't want you atound. I doubt the same manipulative stuff will work now there's a grandchild in the picture. Plus why would you want WANT to destroy a relationship between a father and his child? There's something wrong with that.
You know what that payback
You know what that payback will be? SD will demand your son not see you. No more lunches and phone chats between your son and you. You'll have lost your grandchild and your son and after DH gets tired of this bull, you'll lose your husband too.
Yeah, sounds like a plan. Go for it.
After she was 12 and you and
After she was 12 and you and your husband kicked her out of your house for throwing a book, did you ever give her another chance to come back to the home? She was only 12 kids change people change.
You know what? This is
You know what? This is bullshit! Why are you all on her side? I am out of here!
I am not being mean with my
I am not being mean with my last post I really simply was asking if you ever gave her another chance to be in your home?
I just want to know if she
I just want to know if she ever gave this girl another chance, if she never did I can not say I blame the SD for not wanting her in her home. I wouldn't want my MIL/Stepmom who banned me from a home and never gave me a second chance again. That is crazy and if woman can not see that pure simple fact and truth, I get why her son is backing his wife and she might be mislead in her thoughts of how great her relationship is with her son. My brother lives states away and calls my mom multiple times a week. I live 15 minutes away and see my mom twice a week and talk to her like 3 times up to every day of the week.
I completely agree. I would
I completely agree. I would like to know if she gave her another one before she went off and joined the military. If she did not in that time I would say SD has a right to the way she feels.
^^^what super jew said^^^ I
^^^what super jew said^^^
I also agree, this is your sons doing. IF he wanted to he would wrap the baby UP and bring your grandchild to see you.
LET this gooooooo for your own good.
This has nothing to do with
This has nothing to do with your SD... it's 100% your son for allowing her to exclude you from his life.
aim your anger towards yourself and your son, obviously your parenting failed that your own blood kid is shunning you from his life
I am sorry but that's how I see it.