Idonowidont.com Reputable online marketplace for rehoming jewelry. Perhaps DH can sell the ring and use the proceeds to get something for SD which is personalized to who SHE is becoming at 16.

My opinion on this may be biased. My sister and I each have a ring from our parents marriage. They are divorced, but we both kept one of the rings. Its one of my most prized possessions, mostly because my son is extremely close to my dad and I plan to pass it down to him. I don't know if your DH really needs to melt it down but I think giving it to SD might be special to her. I think it depends on her personality. With that being said, I find it odd that a dad would spend so much on a piece of jewelry for his kid. She shouldn't be getting more expensive pieces than you.

On a side note, her parents were married such a short period of time that she may not find the ring sentimental. My parents were married over 25 years.

"That's a lovely idea, DH. However, given that she tends to lose jewelry, maybe you should make this a 21st bday gift? If she lost somethingnso special, she'd be devastated and there is no replacing it. By the way, I saw this lovely (cheap) necklace in the Sunday paper that I bet she'd love, too."

I don't have a problem with him doing this in theory.. with the exception of asking others to chip in. Look, buy her what you can afford... if it's only the $250 version then that's what it is.

I might remind him about her carelessness with jewelry and perhaps he has a safe where he can keep it for her. Of course, that's not a super "fun" present for a newly minted 16 yo.. a piece of jewelry sitting in dad's safe..lol.

My DH used his father's wedding ring for his first marriage to BM. When we first got engaged, he floated the idea of using the same ring and I said "hell no!" He still has that ring and has talked about giving it to his kids or having the engraving from his wedding to BM removed and fixing the engraving from his parents' wedding (which is practically worn away). He's talked about giving it to his kids...I told him that was sort of a dumb idea because why would they want a souvenir from their parents' failed marriage. Also, DH's kids never knew his father and despite the fact that he talks about his father all the time, they seem to have little interest in learning more about him.

All that is to say that I totally agree, using the ring from a failed marriage as a gift for someone else seems like a really bad idea. I can sort of understand why DH in my case kept his old ring, but if I were him, I'd probably want to destroy it because I would want to pretend I never married BM.

If DH was making a piece of jewelry for himself, I'd say no, why would he want something from his failed marriage, but this ring belonged to SD's mom.. even if it was for only a short period of time. I think it's a nice thing for your DH to do for a special 16th birthday. It really wouldn't bother me at all (well other than him spending ridiculous amounts of money to do it)

p.s. doesn't she want a car for her 16th like most kids do??

If she's irresponsible with jewelry, he needs to wait until she's older. He also doesn't need to spend $1000.00, I'm sure something could be done for a more reasonable price.

Or, he could just give her the ring as is, and let her decide if she wants to do something different with it one day. But, I still wouldn't give it to her until she's older and more responsible.

I don't think the ring is a bad idea, but it would probably be much more appreciated when SD is older and can value the price of the gift. Like when she is in her mid to late 20's or early 30's.

I had my wedding rings from my ex made into a nice eternity band for my mom when we divorced. DH's ex sold their rings after the divorce.

BM's wedding ring or the ring BM gave him? either way, I agree with you, it's a terrible idea and he should just take it to the pawn brokers/scrap jewellry vendor.

Men should never be allowed to get 'ideas'

My mother took all the diamonds and gold from all the rings that my father gave her and had a filigree ring made. I have always loved it but she did not give it to me until my 27th birthday. Why that one? No idea, but I cherish it.

She told me she would have never given to me when I asked for it (18th birthday) because I would not have taken care of it.

On a side note- my mother claims my father was the love of her life. Me? I'm just happy the drunk mean person did leave when I was 4 and only had contact with me a few times and every year on his birthday when he called me to remind me. LOL

Has he actually taken the ring to a jeweler and had it looked at? $1,000 seems high (to me at least). I had my parent's rings made into a pendant and it was not anywhere near $1,000.

Jewelers are all not the same. He might get a different idea (and price) from a different jeweler.

Maybe he could just ask sd about it. Tell her that he has been keeping the ring for her but isn’t sure how she wants it. He can suggest that he can either keep it safe till she is older, put it in a chain or have it resizes for her to wear, get it made into a new piece of jewelry or sell it to buy her something she would like.

Talking to her about it will help make sure she gets what she wants.

Oh hel NO.....

Why not suggest to DH - it's such a nice ring he should safe it for SD the day she gets married, much more value and sentiment to that IMHO...

but 16, no.... not gold, something silver maybe?