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Submitted by capp1978 on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 3:13pm

DH calls today to tell me we are going out to dinner tonight. When I asked why he said b/c SD called and wants to do dinner tonight. WTF? Again, b/c she wants something. She wants us to pay for her dinner. We have seen her twice since she moved out almost 2 months ago (which don't get me wrong I could care less if I ever see her again). She came come over the day after she moved out to show of her new tattoos and on Christmas (b/c she wanted her gifts). I'm now in an instant bad mood. I'm thinking of skipping out on dinner, going home and napping instead. Maybe I will wake up in a better mood.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 3:27pm

I think perhaps you should develop some explosive diarrhea or projectile vomiting and skip the dinner. }:)

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Submitted by bananaseedo on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 3:32pm

So, may I ask, how often do the two of you go out to eat normally? Or is this a special date treat reserved for when SD 'wants it'?

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Submitted by capp1978 on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 3:35pm

We do eat out once/week. Usually the same day, Wednesday's. Today I was told we are switching dinner out to Tuesday instead of Wednesday so she could come.

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Submitted by bananaseedo on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 3:37pm

Ahh, I see...in that case no big deal. You can say you had plans or could really use the rest/netflix time...have him bring you carry out back home Smile

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Submitted by Myss.Tique D'Off on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 3:40pm

I would pick up my favourite "take out" as you call it and go home.
He can entertain his SD at dinner.

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Submitted by notsobad on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 4:38pm

DH and SD regularly go out for lunch or dinner. Unless I’m already busy I’m invited but lots of the time I opt out to give them time together.
I take BS to Costco once in awhile and buy him some essentials.

Unless your finances are really tight buying a meal or two for a kid is a nice way to help them out.
She’s out on her own and learning how to budget, cut her some slack and be happy she isn’t asking for rent money.

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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 01/24/2018 - 3:04pm

This girl has almost ruined my marriage, I can't even count how many times she has called me a bitch, told my husband she hates me, told both of us she wishes we were divorced. All of this because I had rules in MY house. I wouldn't let her smoke, drink, do drugs and had a curfew in MY house. The issue I have is that SD has spoken to us twice since moving out on her 18th birthday. The morning SD turned 18 she moved out of the house, telling us she couldn't live one more day under our roof. We had already had an 18th bday party planned for her with our families. I asked her to run to the store and pick up something. She told me she was broke and couldn't afford to get to the store b/c she had no gas. We had to pay to fill her gas tank. The very next day she came over to show us her brand new tattoo. So she had money for tattoo but couldn't afford to put gas in her car. We then saw her on Christmas. The only time she speaks to us is when she needs something. She called her grandma b/c she needed money to get her nails done, she text me when she wanted something for free from my work, she text my husband when she wants to go to dinner.

It's not about the money, it's about the fact that I have no desire to sit with her at dinner. It's about the lack of respect. She doesn't speak to us unless she wants something. Yesterday she wanted something...a free dinner. I am a very giving and caring person and I love children. I would do anything in the world for this girl if she respected her father and me.

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Submitted by notsobad on Thu, 01/25/2018 - 12:20am

Ahhh, I’ve read your other blogs but didn’t put them together with you and you this one.

Your reality is very different from what I was thinking it was.

I hope you didn’t go to dinner. I hope you have separate finances and I really hope your DH begins to see his daughter for what she is.

I’m very lucky that my skids and my bio are on their own and are doing well. I don’t mind buying any of them a meal or two or taking them out for a cart load of groceries now and then.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 01/24/2018 - 12:45am

late to the suggestions, I would've gone, but I also would've ensured DH's wallet with all his cash and cards are forgotten home,
then on arrival inform SD, oh Dear Dad forgot his wallet guess you will have to pay tonight lol...

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Submitted by Cara1128 on Wed, 01/24/2018 - 2:21am

Dress like it's datenight...go to dinner in your car.. Order the most expensive meal on the menu(let sd and hubs order first so they cannot change).Act as if it is datenight(with all the flirty actions possible.
15 minutes before check arrives feign sickness and go home so one of them has to pay for it.(presuming hubs has his own account...)
Wednesday take yourself out to the nice dinner she usurped(be late getting home and tell hubs u stopped off somewhere bc hungry).
If this goes well then sd will only want to have dinner with hubs alone
But hubs will never change the day bc he will want to have dinner with his sexy wife on the Wednesday
Disclaimer:for entertainment purposes only. Rate of sucess unknown.

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Submitted by as my wits end on Tue, 01/30/2018 - 4:03am

My SD's are the same only interested in daddy dearest when they want something, but he can't see that, his always asking them if the want to go to movies or spend some time together but they are never available when he is (bc they don't need anything at that time and would have nothing to talk about!) wake up SO's you SD's are sponges your only cool when your wallet is open!

My SO wanted to join all our money together and I said no way in hell we have a joint account that we both put the same amount into but none of that is used on our children only us, My BIOS 23Yrs old and engaged to a gorgeous young lady, is independent and does not rely on me at all but I love to help when he asks once a year if that and its never for much, and I love splurging on him and his fiancé because they don't expect it or demand it. The SD's on the other hand that still live at home rent free, mate if you want to keep handing them your card then there is no way my money is going on there!

I would go to dinner, question everything why do you need that, your nails look nice recently done were they, that fake tan looks recent, is that a new bag and shoes and clothes? hahahaha
and what Cara1128 said hehe