Okay, my son's dad is acting like an ass again....
Heres the story: My son was invited to join a divorce support group at his school. It involves meeting with the school counselor and a group of children once a week for 1/2 an hour each time for 4 weeks.
Well dad's wife didn't like the idea.... dad's wife is overbearing to the point that dad has to sneak behind her back to meet with me or call me to make decisions about our son. This woman makes degrading comments about me to my son, and has done so since he was born... for instance when my son was 2 she taught him to say "mommys a fat ugly cow".... she won't allow my son to call me 'mom' in her presence and demands that he call me by my first name. In the end I kind of feel badly for this lady because she is living a miserable, jealous, existance.... but then I remember that she is creating her own hell, and then I don't feel so badly for her. So, my son is now old enough to see through her lies.... By the way, as much as I don't like SM, I have NEVER spoken a bad word toward her anywhere near my son.... in fact, when my son says bad things about his SM I tell my son that maybe he misunderstood, or maybe she didn't mean it that way... the last time I said that when my son told me things she was saying about me.... my son looked at me and said "No mom, she meant it the way she said it, she is not a nice person".
The bottom line is that I can assume that SM doesn't want my son in counseling because she fears what may come out about her.... Anyway, SM called the school and asked for my son to be removed from the sessions.... school counselor and the principal were concerned that she was calling and so they contacted their attorney whom told them that BOTH parents need to consent when there is a Joint Custody arrangement. Then the school called and told me the above. After that, the counselor and principal called dad in a conference call and told him their thoughts on the counseling sessions.... counselor told him that son was benefiting and learning and she thinks he should attend.... Dad didn't budge.... So now I am strongly considering taking dad to court over this. Counselor is very concerned and will write a statement regarding her conversation with dad as well as her concerns.... The sessions are nearly over, but I still think son would benefit from one-on-one sessions with the school counselor or another counselor all together.... There is so much behind all of this as on top of dealing with my ex and his wife, I am married to the most wonderful man in the world who unfortunately has a completely psychotic ex-wife and now my DH's ex-wife and my son's step-mom are getting together to try and make DH and I look bad in court!! Fortunately the court is not as stupid as they seem to think.... Okay, this is getting really long.... any thoughts would be appreciated.