I am so fed up!!!
I think I am going crazy and it's all my fault. I am 31 and my hubby is 52. He has a daughter who is now 25 and a son who is 22, and of course the little one who is 7. When I met my husband 10 years ago we were a perfect match. He was mature and diffrent from the guys I was used to. We dated for a year and he moved away to the islands. At that point he only had the two older ones and I had one from a previous relationship that was 1. We seperated on good terms and hooked up again when he returned ( 3 years later) Everything was great except that while he was out there he had a kid with a local girl from the islands. That was ok because the kid stayed with her.
When we hooked up for the second time, it was not the same. His older kids lived with him. Mother couldn't handle them.
SD: Gets involved in our arguements, when we were talking about marriage she told him he should have a prenup, a month before the wedding wrote a 6 page letter insulting me and cced it to everyone, spoke badly about me at my wedding, moved out and said it was because of me. Of course, my husband was feeling guilty and blamed me for the distance
SS: He is the king, Told his dad not to marry me, URGED him to sign a prenup, brought friends to my wedding and threw up during the reception (over drinking), had a party when we went on our honeymoon and had sex on our brand new bed that we didn't even sleep in, lost my cat, uses heroine in the house, and I can't say anything because my husband says,"that's my son, do you want me to kick him up and not help him"
My husband never says any thing. We leave and go away for 9 monthes and when we come back home there are 4 drug dealers living in our home one in our bed. 9 bags of garbage that needs to be thrown out. What the hell!!!
I am at my wits end
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stepson on drugs as well
I really feel for you. My step son is on drugs and my husband will not believe his son is taking anything. As a RN who works in drug rehab, I do know the signs, though there maybe a .0001 chance he is not taking them. My stepson is utterly rude to me. He will not speak to me unless he wants money! Dad is soft and always gives it to him!!!! and that is the only time SS calls his Dad.
I am beginning to detest my situation as my husband will not say a thing to his son. thank God! he doesnt live with us or I would be on the next flight to Woop Woop...Hubbie feels that his 26 year old needs to be handled with kid gloves!!!
I hope it all turns out for you and I know what you maybe feeling as well..
Take care
Personally I would not have
Personally I would not have gotten mixed up with a guy like that for every trait you mentioned he had. He is also too involved with his kids if they are telling him on what conditions he will marry you or be with you.
At least he doesn't hide these things from you
If you know they told him all these things about you, I am assuming he told you - unless they actually had the guts to say in front of you. Let me tell you my story, my husband is 53 (two SD 30 and 32). We did not sign a prenup, but should have - I have more than he and wish I had now. Found unsigned will and handwritten list of assets by his daughter and two power of attorney forms under a mat in his car. She just gave them to him and he had not even looked at them he says and forgot they were there.