Discipline
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I have read and been advised that the discipline should come only from DH during the beginning; however, I have always been part of it and now wonder if I did it all wrong? Being a teacher my DH asked for a lot of advice because he was the custody dad from a recent divorce. I also homeschool the youngest, 4. Am I wrong for putting them on time out? Also, my DH loves to baby his 5 yr old. He will feed him, yes feed him, dinner when SS is grumpy. Is this normal to go through after a recent divorce?
I would say that you should
I would say that you should try to let DH do the disciplining unless he's not around. I also think that babying children after a divorce is normal for parents to do, but he has to snap out of that asap or its going to bite him later.
So we had a good, deep
So we had a good, deep discussion about this after having a major 3 hour tantrum one day and another shorter tantrum the next. What we decided was that we will back each other up when the kids aren't listening to either of us. However, DH will have the "heavy hand" as he put it. He said that he wants the kids to first look at me as a friend and confident. When there are major issues to be handled, he said I should let him know what is going on while he's not here and let him deal with it when he gets home. At the same time, I don't want him coming home to an unpleasant atmosphere. But, it sure has been nice when the boys haven't been listening to him and I sit back and do nothing. It has been hard to do, but it allows DH to experience disciplining like I have to do during the day.
I don't think that "rule"
I don't think that "rule" applies to a custodial stepparent. In that case, I think it should be run the same as a nuclear family. The only time I agree with letting the bio-parent discipline is if it is the NCP and the children only visit.
In my opinion, you most definitely should be involved in the discipline.