Story of my life for the last two years.

I can't believe he said those things to you. Quite rude and very unwarranted. That would tick me off a bit, okay, a lot...

I probably in front of both of them replied, "No dear ones, this is a YOUR problem, it is time for bed and since YOU are the child and I WORK, you may show "daddy" all of these things in the morning after I rest." Goodnight!

I do not obviously tolerate verbal and / or emotional abuse well. }:) And YOU should not put up with that from anyone...

The computer needs to be set up elsewhere other than your room. We do NOT allow skids to come into our room and watch tv or do whatever they want.

If you are letting everybody know that it is time for bed and your SD is all of a sudden announcing to your DH that she needs to show him something for school you need to speak up and say something!

She knows that she bothers you so what better time to announce to daddy dearest that she needs to show him something....

Tell your DH that HE and along with SD are the ones with a problem. Doesn't he see anything wrong with his daughters timing. She was in the room already on the computer listening to music and not once did she call her dad in to show him whatever it is that tickles her pickle!

The attention thing gets to me as well. I can't believe that nobody has taught these kids how rude it is to interrupt adults. Meaning, the BP's. We as just SM's do not have that right. We are deemed mean and wicked for pointing out such major flaws in their precious Cherub's lives. }:)

Maux- A purse? Jeez. My "teen", soon to be 20 year old girl thankfully was taught better. Not to brag but I did do my best to teach her manners and common respect.

I would not have been able to sit down for a week if I has acted in the ways I am so thankful }:)
I get to see and hear. I can't believe it!

It pisses me off when SD6 comes in MY bedroom and starts "looking" around and drooling all over my bed. I give DH "a look" and he gets the message. I never did that. Of course DH and BM sperm carrier co-slept with SD until she was 4 years old. She still sleeps with mommy and she is in the first grade. Baths, everything. Whatever. Just keep it away from me.

I never proofread or believe in spell check obviously. Quite the great speller though- LOL

It's the ADD. :O

hbell0428 - your DH needs to understand that you two need time together - so tell him either you get from 9pm on - SD13 does not have to be asleep but she needs to be in her room or there will be hell to pay - this little girl knows exactly what she is doing - she is waiting until you two are ready to spend some time together and then she wants to butt in and take over your time - don't let it happen. My SS used to do this when he lived with us and I nipped it in the bud very quickly - DH could not understand why I was getting upset so I said okay - you watch for the next week - SS will pay no attention to you until he realizes it is time for bed and you and I are sitting down in the living room for some us time - so DH the next week really paid attention to what SS did and I was right - SS would ignore him until 9pm and then as soon as he saw me grab a drink and head for the couch he would run up to DH and ask for help for a school project or would tell him he needed to talk to him - after the week DH realized what SS was doing and from then on 9PM he was in his room and not allowed to leave except to go to the bathroom. SS would also try to sneak up to our bedroom door and open it when he thought we were having sex - or he would knock on the door to be a pain in the ass - one time he knocked and DH and I were watching TV but I started moaning really loud for about 30 seconds - about 5 minutes later I went to the door and saw he had left and innocently knocked on his bedroom door and said sorry what did you want I was a little tied up there for a few minutes can I help you now - I was in my bathrobe and a little our of breath for good measure - he said no no I am okay and never knocked again when he thought we were having sex!

"Honey, I don't hate her. I just wonder why she waits until I want to go to bed to show you something on the computer. I mean she has had all evening. Oh well, night night."

The one bargaining tool you have is sex. Cuddle up to him all evening. Come on to him all evening when she isn't looking. Email/text him during to day things like "I think we need to 'reconnect' tonight" "Let's see if our male and female plugs still fit". And when she does the daddy daddy daddy thing, just smile, shrug your shoulders and say "That's OK. We can 'talk' another night. Nite nite everyone! SD, make sure you turn out the lights when you and your dad are finished.Thanks sweetie." Go to bed and go to sleep. NOTHING will drive him crazier than thinking he's getting some and not... getting some or any.

And eventually he will see your point. Promise.

Yeah and move the computer. No kid would be in MY bedroom listening to music online.