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Submitted by hrtdaybaby on Mon, 06/06/2011 - 4:13pm

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That is how I am feeling today. I JUST don't get it!! Here I thought everything was going good with SS, and we had an understanding of each other. Now, suddenly its like I just got knocked down on my ass. We have 4 days until we take SS to his BM, and we bring the SD back here with us. Now, the SS is trying to create chaos, start trouble between me and DH AND with BM! I barely speak to him, when I do I try to be as positive as I can be. I have even gone so far as to ask the kid to talk to me about any issues he has with me so I can be better aware and work with him. We won't talk about the response I get back.

Top it off, today of all days is when things come to a head around here. The 18th anniversary of when my uncle and aunt were killed. It still hurts. So, on top of dealing with my own personal family grief, the SS starts his crap. Top it off with being new to town and not knowing anyone here, well, I am having an absolutely screwed up day! SOMEONE PLEASE send me some words of encouragement....ideas....advice....something!

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Submitted by sociopath s-son on Mon, 06/06/2011 - 4:26pm

Hang in there! This too shall pass. That which doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Ok, that's all the "uplifting" stuff I have. But seriously, it sucks, but as the adults, we don't get to play. Talk to DH, make sure your communication is good and that SS can't play you guys against each other, and BREATHE.

That's all I got. Good luck!

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Submitted by hrtdaybaby on Mon, 06/06/2011 - 4:32pm

Thanks....I am hanging in there, and talking to DH....I keep telling myself "4 more days" and I will have a break! There is a HUGE part of me that hopes he decides to not come back, and decide to stay with his BM instead. When I try to talk to DH about the issues, its like talking to a brick wall at times, but I get it. NOBODY wants to see their kid is a manipulator and a down right jerk.

Thanks for that though!

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Mon, 06/06/2011 - 4:47pm

Can you take some time away? Maybe go to a coffee shop with a good book, or to a spa? Just get out and away so you don't have to think about what's going on at home?

It may help if you can just be on your own & de-stress a little.

I'm sorry you're having a hard time...like Sociopath s-son said, "this too shall pass".

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Submitted by hrtdaybaby on Mon, 06/06/2011 - 5:13pm

Thanks....my get away tomorrow is the gym! Maybe that will help some.....