Hello everyone! I am quite new to the page. I tend to read on here but never post, so I thought I'd give it a try. I have two identical twins SS7. We have recently been Dealing with them constantly wanting to be at BMs house. My husband has the EOW deal and 2 hours during the week he don't have them. Well just the last time they were over here, one of them was talking about wanting to live with us but then this week we have them, they both start saying we want to go to our moms. We asked them why, and they couldn't give us a reason. They always are talking about how BM always yells,
never buys them toys ( which is not true with the toy buying cause everytime we go to the store they have something like that at their moms) We always play with them card games, video games, take them out to eat, let them know they are loved and missed. BM always sends them to their aunts and never does anything with them. I understand that they love their mom and wouldn't want it any other way... But my husband and I don't know what to do when they whine about going to BMs. They pulled this on Christmas last year the only reason their BM even called them on Christmas is cause their Aunt wanted to speak to them, after she did BM was saying how she got them presents and that she missed them. They ended up crying the rest of their evening saying they wanted to go home. What do you do when this happens? And how do you deal? We've tried telling them that we love them and miss them like crazy when they are with us. They are always included but yet always wanting to go home...We are constantly doing fun things and stuff they want to do. I even let the one loves to cook help me all the time even if it seems as though he's more in the way. We always include them... The only thing we can think is something is being said at BM's home. I never talk bad about BM, even when they say BM don't love us, I redirect them and explain that she does. My husband thinks they are using this as a manipulating tool. Any suggestions??