My live-in boyfriend (committed, yet not engaged or getting married for personal reasons) has three kids...this is hard to explain, but i'll try. He married his older brothers widow when the two oldest kids were very small, like 3 and less than one......i know......crazy! Anyway, then they had one together, so technically two of the kids are his neice (16) and nephew (18, autistic) and then there's the biological son (13). I have one son (10). His dad passed away when he was 20 months old.

When his kids come over, they try to take over my sons room, even try to take his pillow! And I always make sure there are plenty to go around. But, like me, my son has his favorite and thats the only one he wants. I know they are jealous, it's obvious. Anyway, my son bucks up against them, and I don't blame him! The 18 yr old, autistic, who I don't think IS AUTISTIC as much as he has been TOLD HE's AUTISTIC so he has been expected to LIVE AS AUTISTIC (he has few social skills, that's all that's wrong with him. He's the WORST!!!! The girl, she's bitchy just like her momma and likes to roll her eyes at me and talk constantly about BF's ex's family. The youngest, he resents having to be here, cause he has his head up his Momma's ass. I make myself absolutely sick, just knowing i'm going to have to deal with these little brats for an entire weekend. AND we used to have them every weekend, until I threatened to call everything off. Then it pretty much changed to every other weekend. While they're here, I'm pissed cause they are making my son miserable and me miserable and they refuse to go outside, they want to lay around all over my living room messing and goming or be in my kitchen eating and cooking without cleaning up their messes. I always have to mention to him that they have a mess in order to get them to clean it up and then they do a crappy job. I cannot stand them and have actually thot about asking him to leave over this.

So......They came last weekend. Walked in to MY house and never even said hi, or anything. Immediately they go to fridge, I have to hide anything I don't want them completely consuming while they are here. They eat the food that I BUY! AND CAN'T EVEN SAY HI TO ME?!?!?! Anyway, I let things be and ignored them. They asked to go home early, and he took them I was soooooo glad. I had mentioned to him before they left that they are so damn disrespectful and how i can't stand them. I can't stand them even for 5 minutes!!!! On the way home, he said he talked to them and they said they don't have a problem with me. Then, I saw in his cell phone (he has no idea) where his son sent him a text saying the don't have a problem with anyone here, except my son. WTF?!? It's really gnawing at me. I want to say something soooooo bad. I don't want the brats at MY SON'S HOME ever again, and the way I look at it they shouldn't want to come if they have issues with it. One of the things that bothers me the most is that this is my son's home......and home should be your safe haven. Why should I continue to let them come in and pick on him and expect us to change what we do just cause they are here for a few days?!?!? Advice please!!!