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Submitted by bmo73 on Fri, 09/09/2011 - 7:38pm

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Mentally Unfit Biological Parents

I've read a lot of the stories here about dealing with crazy ex-wives, which i can completely relate to. I won't go into details because it's similar to what all the other posters are dealing with, but I have been dealing with it for over 16 years now and I OBVIOUSLY clearly love my husband because I'm still around even through the years of total chaos and turning our lives upside down from her antics. Just curious though, if you had to do it all over again, would you? I would certainly NEVER recommend it to anyone and i know not all ex-wives are as crazy as the one i (and we) deal with but seriously, had I known, not sure i would've. He warned me though...he sure did.

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Submitted by CalgonTakeMeAway on Fri, 09/09/2011 - 10:06pm

I would do it again. I love my hubby enough to put up with the crap from BM. My youngest skid is 13, so it won't be a whole lifetime of this (I hope)!! It's just nice to vent to people who understand!

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Submitted by Blaze on Sat, 09/10/2011 - 5:32am

my gut says no--but hindsight is 50/50
I love dh much and for the most part we have good lives, together. However she is the worst thing to come into my life ever! I have to tell myself and him that nothing last forever and she cant keep it up forever either

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Submitted by bmo73 on Sat, 09/10/2011 - 6:38am

I know how you feel about that. His ex has put us through hell and back and then when you think she's growing up, she flips again. She has no idea the stress she has placed on her kids and I worry that my SD is growing up to be her little "mini me". I love my husband to death but sometimes I would love to have a "normal" life. I am counting down the days until my SD graduates high school--this June! We will NEVER deal with her again and only deal directly with the skids. What a glorious day that will be! However, she has been working her way with the parental alienation and turning the skids agains us over the past 16 years that I fear there may be no relationship with them when it's all over. That's exactly what she's worked for and as things stand now, she will succeed. It's sickening. So now our BD is paying the price by losing a relationship with her sister who she loves.