Crazy BM is trying to ruin our relatiionship and make herself seem like the better parent!!!
So...my bf has trust issues that he's recently been working on. Everything was great, until his ex called him and said she had "info" about me. She got her "info" from one of her friends, who said they know a guy named Lucas and that he said I slept with him last November. Total BS!!! It's funny she says that because I don't even know anyone named Lucas!!! And the bad thing about this is, I went to visit my girlfriends for a girl's night in November. My bf questioned me about this, asking if I had in fact slept with anyone. I told him i would never do that, and that I don't even know a guy named Lucas! He questioned it-but knows in his heart I would never do that to him. (he also said he told his ex that when she first told him about it! that way his first though and that was the first thing he said to her was "she wouldn't do that to me" YAY for my babe! He told her!)
Anyway, since then, we took all of the kids out fishing for a day last weekend. My bf has a 9 year old daughter, and I have 2 boys, 4 & 5. Well his daughter isn't TOO crazy about fishing, but we all had a good time. Sunday comes, we take the kids out to play and fly their kites. We had fun doing that too. Then we had our fish for supper that we had caught the day before. So the weekend is over and the daughter goes back to her mom's.
So my bf tries to call to get his daughter for a night of two during the week, (because the weekend coming, she is to stay with her mom), and the BM says "no, I want to keep her all week." So my bf says "well I want to see her too, she's my daughter too, and I want to spend time with her" she says no. He says "oh it has to be your way all the time. I love how you always make the rules" and asks to speak to his daughter.
After he gets off the phone, we have a conversation about the BM. He says " I see what she is doing. She's trying really hard to break us up, and now that daughter has probably gone to her mom's and told her all about us doing things together, She knows that we are still together, the BM is trying to keep her away as much as possible because she has nothing but positive things to say about us. She doesn't want her around us because there is nothing bad to say. Now she's gonna try to keep her and do more fun things with her, and try to make herself seem more fun than we are. But that's ok. It's probably a good thing that her mother will keep her more. I mean, she barely sees her, and on the weekends she is supposed to have her, daughter always ends up sleeping at BM's sister's or one of her friend's house. Daughter actually just told me that BM and her sister aren't speaking right now. So maybe BM will have her more." I agreed and made a few points about how daughter is prob telling BM how much fun we had over the weekend with all of the kids.
There's so much more that this witch is doing. My story is far from told. She is jealous of us, and she does things to try to piss us off. But we're smarter than that. We know not to let her get to us!
I have so much more to say! Maybe i should start with a blog and even post our facebook messages we had sent to each other!!!!
So far, they only have joint
So far, they only have joint custody. He does NOT want to go to court. Its too much trouble for him.
And FB, long story short, when she found out about him and I seeing each other, she added me as a friend on FB. I accepted, because I have nothing to hide. She wanted to see what kind of a person I am, that was fine with me. But I got fed up with her b/s and deleted her as a friend.
BM did the same thing to us
BM did the same thing to us when we first got together by saying that I was a whore & I went through alot of guys. She also said that her "friend"(the only one she has) did some investigating & found all kinds of bad things about it. All of it was stuff I had never done & after hearing the list I actually said I think this "friend" has me mixed up with someone else. I asked around town who this "friend" even was & no one that I was friends with or even associated with had even heard of her!
BM told that story, which didn't work, then she tried a week or so later to tell FH that I was getting sick of my own child & that I would eventually get sick of their 3. I think she projects alot.
I have a facebook convo as well that I am thinking about posting just for fun! I like the idea of her ramblings being on the world wide web! So, post yours & we will compare! I decided to start a blog too, just so i could feel better & get it all off my chest!NG
They did go to court after
They did go to court after they split...they had to settle the house and all of the belongings. They were never married (thank GOD)
Yes he is legally recognized
Yes he is legally recognized as the father, and pays child supposrt and has been since they split.
If you stick with this
If you stick with this man...get use to worse lies and constant interference with BM. Plan on her making life a challenge, plan on her always trying to run the show, plan on her turning the kids against you, plan on her mug always in your face through the kids. She isn't going away, she's unhappy, and she doesn't want the ex to do well.
Wow, when I read this post I
Wow, when I read this post I felt like someone wrote it about me! But, how do you not let her get under your skin? My BF and I try to ignore BM's immaturity and jealousy, but's so hard when she is turning the kids against us because we can't take them on expensive vacations every year like she does. She makes far more money than my BF and he can't take the kids on fancy vacations after all the CS he pays. She honestly still thinks she's married to him and can order him around like a puppet.Unfortunately, her mother is the same way so he gets the crap from both sides.
I have a similar issue. The
I have a similar issue. The BM doesn't see what she did. She steadily tells lies about why she left BF to the kids; none of which make sense to an adult. She uses me as the one who broke them up even though I came into the picture over a year later than her moving in with her boss. She drinks and smokes all the time as the kids tell it. She says things like 'you don't have to go see your father; you don't have to like her'. She tries to get information on me to split us up through ex friends of BF. She even text she is going out with one while living with her boss. I don't like drama. I have my fill of it. The sad part is she has the children most of the time. She calls the BF to ask if she can stay the night when she and her live in 'boss' argue. I put my foot down stating we would pick up the kids. But I get angry he doesn't do more to stop the insanity. It's bad enough he bred with this lunatic!
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Wow....You are in for a long
Wow....You are in for a long and bumpy ride. This woman is NEVER going away. You need to sit down and think seriously. Do I want this woman in my life FOREVER. She is going to be a constant source of aggravation in your life with your man. You had better LOVE him big time cause this woman has YOU in her sites as the main reason for living. She will get up in the mornings thinking about new stuff to make you miserable. So either pack up and leave as quick as you can...or realize you have to learn to deal with this woman. You and your man need to cut as much communication with her as possible. Don't engage her unless talking about the child and ONLY do that the least amount you can. This is the only way to save the realtionship and your sanity...You may not believe what I am telling you...I lived this mess for 6 years before leaving.. It was the best decision I ever made. Looking back I still think what a waste of time...
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I have the same problem with
I have the same problem with my husbands crazy ex wife. She is always trying to one up us when we do something for the kids. If we buy them a hoodie, she will call and tell them she will buy a better one. We took them on vacation for 7 days, and she told them she would take them ten days... TO THE SAME EXACT PLACE. Anytime we are trying to do something fun, she will try everything in her power to ruin it.
As difficult as it is, I guess you just have to remember that she is just miserable because she wants what you have. Ultimately in her eyes you have already won, and everything she is doing is to try to make you miserable. It will probably get even worse if you do get married, but you just have to be strong and hold your own and eventually she will slowly start to let go.
This sounds pretty familar to
This sounds pretty familar to me! When I first started dating my husband my SD mom tried to break us up too! Obviouly it didn't work since we are married now! She was very jealous of us and even banned me fron seeing her daughter for about a month! How petty! She was really pissed off when we started living together! But you know what, I think she was mad because she lost her hold over my husband, he got more confident when he got with me and stopped taking her shit! That's why she didn't like me, she still doesn't. Oh well the feeling mutual!
If I were you I would just ignore that woman and have little to do with her! That's how I handle my husband's ex! She is a crazy bitch and I hate her guts! I never talk to her. My husband handles her, I'm not the one that has a kid with her so I don't have to deal with her! Hopefully things will get better for you like they did for me! We have a joint custody agreement and my husband and I have been happily married for 5 years, and we have a lot fot fun with my SD. Her mom is crazy and will always try to cause problems, but she won't win!!! We have a hppy family and nobody can take that away from us!