Looking for opinions on SD 17 and my greatest fear
Long story short, SD has made mistakes in the past. There are trust issues with DH. Almost a year ago, she started dating this guy we got to know. He was respectful, not afraid to just hang out in the living room with us and watch tv together. Her grades went up, she was allowed to go with him almost any time (which, after the crisis she had thrown at us- is actually a big thing for her to be able to do.)
Thing is, she is a liar and a drama queen. Again, LSShort- he found out how much she was going to be high maintanence, and how untruthful she really is. Then he dumped her.
Now, a month after they broke up- she gets in an argument with DH because she had been getting bad grades and he wouldn't give her her cell phone. Proceeds to run away and is now telling everyone who will listen that she is pregnant with said ex's baby. I see three options: 1)Using the pregnancy issue to get people to let her stay with them. As in- "my dad threw me out now I don't know where to go."
2)Using that she is pregnant to try to get the ex to start talking to her again.
3)She really is pregnant and my life is about to become a living hell.
7 months left until 18 and I was counting it down as much as she. Now I see .... I cant think that way.
I think she needs intense
I think she needs intense counseling, and parenting classes.
I think she needs intense
I think she needs intense counseling, and parenting classes. DH also should talk with her about putting the baby up for adoption, because it doesn't sound like she's ready to he a parent yet.
Sorry for the double post,
Sorry for the double post, I'm on my iPod touch.
If she is pregnant, this
If she is pregnant, this could be her biggest opportunity in life. She will slow down, for one thing. She can give it up for adoption, and in return, get her college paid for. Yah, I know it sounds like selling a kid, it's not. People do it all the time. It's your compensation, your motivation for doing good and turning your life around. This could be the one thing that makes her see the path she's on and change it.
If she's not, get her on the pill. She needs work on her self esteem. If getting good grades was dependent on a relationship with a guy? She obviously doesn't feel valuable enough on her own accord. That's a problem with girls. I have four of them and have watched them suffer through these stages. The I have no value outside of this relationship crap. I hated watching it. But with the right plan, you can pull them out of it.
Thanks for the advise. She
Thanks for the advise. She was on BC, an implant actually because i reminded her that pills only work if you are reponsable with them. THis implant caused her to have her period constantly so they took it out. Than she was relying on the pill and condoms.
Whut?
Whut? :?
i would get her a pregnancy
i would get her a pregnancy test pronto because then you can figure out whether or not she is just doing this for attention or not. Then you can help her make a decision on what to do next. We dealt with this with SD22. She chose to keep the baby, but i believe she got pregnant on purpose to keep the guy around, to also get attention, and it also landed her in the house of her boyfriend's parents (she wanted out of our house). She told us she was on the pill, but then in another breath she told her sister that she thought that the pill was stupid -- so i think she was not on the pill, so that's why i think she got preggers on purpose -- plus the first thing out of her mouth to me was 'when do i start getting child support?" wha?? sheesh!
Best of luck to you!
Well, it would be great to do
Well, it would be great to do a pg test, but she also took off and is lying and sayng we kicked her out so friends will let her stay with them.