DH only displays pics of him and his SD11
I have a concern that i don't know how to address it to my DH without showing any negative emotions or start any fight between us. My DH has a last year old pic of him and SD11 on his phone screen saver, and never ever had pics of us together on his phone displayed like that (the pic was taken last thanksgiving over his ex house while we were separed). He also has a collage pic of him and his daughter when she was a newborn, and as a todler on our bedroom coridor which i can't stand looking at every morning or night when i pass by. My DH and i have tons of pictures of us together from different events, or of me or him alone. Those are the only pictures posted around the house. We recently had our civil ceremony few weeks ago and my family had the chance to take vey nice pictures of us that i have save in my ipod as well as phone, and i had forwaded to him so he can create an nice album, folder, photoshop whatever since that's one his hobbies and his area of expertise, but stil hasn't taken the time to do so. I am a little bothered towards my DH thoughts of us and also put the effort of putting pictures of us around the house, his phone, cpu etc...
My DW is the same way. She
My DW is the same way. She has a picture of goofy-looking SD17 as the wallpaper on the iPhone that I provide for her. I have asked about having me as the wallpaper for a while, but she just ignores me. Sometimes DW has "moments of clarity" about the disaster of a daughter that she has raised, but most of the time she "can't get enough" of SD.
you're absolutely right! and
you're absolutely right! and i will...
thanks for your thoughts! Even though i still believe that he can at least acknoledge us as a couple some how some way. It feels like as if SD is more important than us!
Men typically aren't as into
Men typically aren't as into the whole "putting up pictures" thing as we are. Put your wedding pictures up wherever you want in the house.
As for the pictures of his kid...I take it she doesn't live with you? He lives with you and sees you every day. Maybe that's the reason he doesn't have a burning need to place your image on everything he owns.
I have pictures of my children in my wallet, and on my screensaver, and a bunch in my phone. Those are the pictures I take out and use to brag to friends and relatives about how big the kids are getting, or "Oh, look, here's DS at his NYO practice..he got a ribbon that day!" I rarely feel the same desidre to show friends and family candid pictures of DH mowing the lawn or doing dishes, even though I'm proud of him when he does. It's the difference between kids and adults. Some stuff just doesn't translate.
Hey blue belle, thanks for
Hey blue belle, thanks for recalling my situation. No i haven't yet posted another thread addressing that yet! SD is coming over this evening to stay with us for 2 whole weeks (God help me...) since its spring break and BM is out of town for business. However, i already told DH how it is important for SD to know about asap as a good news and i want us to do it together too! i am curious to see her reaction lol...
As for our civil ceremony, it was both of our idea, mainly his. Since we've been together for aprox. 7 years and been leaving together on and off for 1-2. Since we were leaving together at the time while we were engaged, and sick in tired of not making it official, while we were also in addition trying to be pregnant. We decided that i would be best to make things in order in the eye of God, so whatever happens happens with blessings. So that's why we both decided to first do a civil wedding then the matrimonial with friends and family will follow. My family and niece 5 were present. His family were absent since him his family never get along. But his mother is aware of us and approve of us too. DH dad's never knew him all his life. DH also comes from a very small family too. But DH is also prolonging in telling his aunties and other people he do keep in contact. So yes i do feel like i am kinda kept on the DL....
that's exacly what i'm
that's exacly what i'm talking about! I'm tired to see SD baby pix with my DH on the wall. and if you had the time to put those as well as saving pics of you and SD on your phone wall paper, how long does it takes to replace with my pics or us every once in a while? I even brought this into his attention he said he will do it then never did. Although he says that my pictures are up on his screen saver at work. Yes, but not as much you have for SD.