She is an ungrateful, entitled, little BRAT! I have had it with this child! For her 17th birthday she told us she wanted us to get her flowers -- so I got her 3 roses with balloons, but I didn't have them sent to the school so she was disappointed! Seriously. Also got her a beautiful scarf, bought her a nice cake, decorated the house and was going to give her $100 cash. Instead of the cash, she wanted to get her ear pierced -- when we got there she talked about getting two piercings. Because she was excited and was going to do two at the same time, it was going to be $110 (weird piercings that's why so spendy), so I figured I would do it. But she decided on the one piercing, which was $60 and included a tip. So that meant she had $40 left.

At one point she asked for $20 to go to the movies, and I told her that would diminish her b-day money. She told me she wanted me to hold the money so she wouldn't spend it. I knew that was a bad idea. She has accused me of stealing money from her before! Like I need to steal money from her! I managed her bank account for her, and she would forget when she would ask me to take money out for her, etc., and she would forget and when she would forget what she spent it on, she would ask me. I wouldn't remember what she spent it on, wasn't my job. So she then accused me of stealing the money from her! Pissed me off so bad that i went down and closed the account and gave her the money out of the account. Little bitch.

So anyways, back to the birthday money. So because she couldn't remember what she spent the money on, obviously I must be lying -- is what she said. Pissed me off. So i wrote her a letter, gave her a frickin' check for $40, and was done with the whole thing. Told her that from this point forward ALL money given to her will be by check only -- no more cash EVER since she can't remember. I am also not taking her to get her ear pierced -- she has to be 18 or have a parents consent. Her Dad is not taking her -- so too bad so sad. I told her that next year she would not tell us what we would get her for a present because that is not what presents are supposed to be about -- told her she was not entitled to a gift -- that gifts are supposed to be joyful -- and now this was anything but joyful.

I also told her she was ungrateful. She told me that I was pushing her around! I asked her WHEN!!?? She says that she has to work 1-2 days per week and go to school and pay for all her own stuff. Seriously?? I was blown away. We never talk! So when the hell am I pushing her around? Told her that too! She couldn't answer me as to when I was pushing her around. As to working I told her that is learning responsibility -- and reminded her of all the money we have given her, the purchases we have made for her, etc. I about came unglued on my DH when he was defending some of this crap she was saying. She began whining and saying she had to pay for her SAT tests and her sports fee -- we didn't even know about these! How can we pay for something we didn't even know about/????? Seriously?!!

Another argument is that she is responsible for cleaning the cat box -- it's her cat. My DH asked her last night to clean it. She did not. It stunk to high heaven. So after she pissed me off, I quit texting her and was not going to deal with her but did text her to clean the cat box when she got home like her Dad told her to do the night before. She responds with "Please?" I responded "Please what?" And she says "Please clean the cat box?" I almost came through the phone at her! I then texted her "how about you learn to clean up after your cat without us having to remind you to all the time or I'm getting rid of your cat." Something to that effect -- I threw in frickin' in there somewhere. I was frickin' pissed!

Please keep in mind I don't normally speak this way to his kids -- but I have had it with the two that are home now -- HAD IT! I have been practicing disengaging the last month, and it's been so much better for me emotionally. For me to have engaged today was a huge mistake.

I needed to vent and get this out. I had two good days with them -- I knew it was too good to be true!