Karma...
Hi there,
ive posted a few times re my SO & princess daughter 25. I wont bore you guys with the details, but just to say she has got her come uppance. 
She constantly had issues with me, and even if SO dealt with these, she threw more stuff out of her pram. It came to a head at the w/e, SO stuck up for me big time, and princess expected him to back down after a couple of days of the silent treatment.
Hallelluja he stuck to his guns, she upped the ante and its led to a monumental fallout, shes turned really nasty showing her true colours, and even if this does get sorted in the following weeks, shes damaged her r/ship with her dad for ever.
A cautionary tale for any adult step kids who wont let their dads have a life, and hope for all us step mums who have tried to make it work. Blood maybe thicker than water, but sometimes its tainted too & you need to leech it out.!!
How very sad. But you know
How very sad. But you know what? If you were the BM and were treated this way or their dad was treated this way, NOBODY would blame you or your DH for keeping away. You see, the BM and our DHs as far as many are concerned are "family", we instead are "the wife" and NOT family. Sorry, it doesn't work that way. A wife is family to that husband whether she had kids with him, didn't have kids with him, had kids first or second or third or 30th!
And I agree. It's one thing for the SM to treat the kid bad just because they are an skid, not because of bad behavior...or for an SMOM to say "you can't come over because I can't stand that you are his kid and I'm not your mom". But other than that, the couple is family as much as the BM and our DHs WERE while married. Kids do NOT have a right to damage that relationship...and if they do, then see ya! I know my mom would tell me to fu#$%$#5k off and send me on my way if I mistreated her or my father, no matter how awful they were growing up.
Kinda like that with ss24.
Kinda like that with ss24. When he lived with us, DH saw first hand his true colors. Now, he only calls or comes round once or twice a month. He (SS) seems like he's finally starting to grow up and become a normal person (but I'm not going to hold my breath). BM wrecked him, big time.
Yay! I like to hear about
Yay! I like to hear about Karma! My two SDs also showed their ugly true colors when DH finally took a stand against them. It was really, really ugly. I told him but he wouldn't see it! They have since tried the "blood is thicker than water" argument and of course, the "grow some balls" argument, but to no avail. They made the filthy bed they now lay in.
Same thing over here, once
Same thing over here, once hubby stood up for what is right then the shit hits the fan. I really do hope that what goes around comes around and till that day I will be sitting on the sidelines with hubby waiting for it happen (front row seat and all)
Ah hey glad some of you have
Ah hey glad some of you have had the reward patience brings..I had to laugh, as like you Towanda, my SO was accused of not standing up to me, grow a pair etc, which really made him LOL as i certainly dont wear the pants, (well not all the time
and i think it was that plus her cruel comments about not seeing the GK that finally helped him see the light..Oh it took its time anad im sure they will paper over the fallout, but she will never have the influence she thinks she had, and we will grow old in peace...
Yes!! Someone else posted, if
Yes!! Someone else posted, if someone shows you who they really are, BELIEVE IT!
How on earth do you get them
How on earth do you get them to expose themselves? My SD16 is stealthy, greedy and manipulative. A cunning creature like her mother. Mother got deliberately pregnant 17 years ago even though he had already said he wanted out. What more can I say?
We are so happy until SD16 turns up 50% of the time. She desperately plays games, puts on acts and hangs with Daddy and has no life. 16 and does not go out. Is that insane? So different to my nieces and nephews of that age. He is trying to help her get independence(about to turn 17 and off to Uni next year but hadn't caught public transport once in her life until I suggested it was a good idea 6 months ago!).
No point talking to anyone because people just do not get it.
I thought I would ask the people here. You seem to have had some positive experiences. Does it get better? Are these kids lost causes or does getting out into the world and maturing help them? How do I influence her father, my husband who I love but am losing some respect for, to stop his enabling behaviours?
I guess i know they will make
I guess i know they will make up, although both are very stubborn and princess very childish too. I think SO has felt "let down" by having to experince her nasty side himself, when previously he said i was "too sensitive". Although they will paper over this incident, and may go back to being close, i also think the fact that im very much in the picture will always grate on SD25, and she knows SO will defend me, and also tell her a few home truths, so she can no longer believe she is the perfect princess.
Its taken several years, and me having to constantly be portrayed as weak, over sensitive and also jealous etc, but it all turned out ok. The last couple of weeks have been the best my SO and i have had, and i think he is loving the lack of tension. SD using the grandkid as punishment will backfire on her, as SO although likes the little chap, being a bloke
he isnt up on the having sleepovers, days out etc, so while he does miss him, hes not distraught & im happy not to have someones else kid to look after at the w/e.
Like i say im sure they will re-establish the bonds, but unless she bites her tongue re me, and shows some respect then i cant see SO spending much time with her, as then this fallout will have been pointless & as men dont waste emoition, this has to count for something.