Short Rant- My week with NO SD15 cut short
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I was looking forward to my last 3 days without this witch being there and guess what??? She's fucking coming home today bc her mom has no good food and we just went grocery shopping...........
Fuck My Life seriously
Now to some this may seem petty and not a big deal, and maybe I'm just mean but guess what? My entire life, environment and FDH change when this little bitch shows up and I cherish every moment she's not there. I seriously feel like I got punched.
Then FDH goes on and on about how she can come home whenever she wants even if it's her moms week and he is ELATED she misses her daddy so much she wants to come home early..... :sick:
Pack up all the food and hide
Pack up all the food and hide it in your closet.
Or better yet, just take it
Or better yet, just take it to a friend's house so that your SO/DH won't know that you didn't just eat it all.
Of course she does. sounds
Of course she does. sounds like a typical user.
I know how you feel. The sudden drop in mood and the disappointment/dread for what is to come. Time to make some plans and stay away from the nonsense
I have already filled up my
I have already filled up my evening! I HATE the power this has over me! You nailed it, complete drop in mood and a huge disappointment. I mentioned that I was taking my bd to the beach after work (before I knew she was even coming over), he said, oh good! SD15 decided she wants to come home early so maybe she can go with you since I have to work late...............FUCK NO!!!!
UGGGHHHHHHHHHHH I dread when she's home FML FML FML
Is this even worth it? God, I LOVE FDH but I really honestly don't know if all this shit is worth it or if it's going to be worth it in the end....................I'm going to make a drink
Sounds just like my SD15. She
Sounds just like my SD15. She goes where the food/fun is!! I hide the food in my room and my mini fridge }:)
I make it as boring as possible here so she doesn't want to be here }:)
I don't buy the "good" food anymore. And I never ever let her know when I go food shopping!! I learned my lesson a long time ago.
Her sister told her!!!! Ugh
Her sister told her!!!! Ugh I'm so frustrated. I'm seriously looking up hotel rates in my area bc I've had a rough week and this made it that much worse. FDH is pushing me even further away
I know how you feel. SD15
I know how you feel. SD15 lives with us but she has been gone most of the summer so far. She came home Sunday and my mood was terrible!! I was so pissy and anxious!! Then she left again and my mood instantly changed!!
Without her here I can leave food around the kitchen, I don't have to hide in my room, I don't have the little troll staring at me and asking me to drive her places and buy her things...Its so nice without her!!
Now I know how it feels to not have her here and I wish she did not live with us. I hate it!! She tortures me. I wait for her to be out with her friends and thats when I take DD10 and BD4 out to do stuff.
I know she will be coming back any day now. She has been gone so long. Ugh!
I dread the sound of my phone receiving a text message!!
Does your DH know you feel
Does your DH know you feel this way? MY FDH picks up on my mood change right away and it's causing alot of friction But I don't know how to stop it!!!!!!!!! I can't fucking stand her, I don't like his other lazy ass daughter either but she's more tolerable
Well we used to fight over
Well we used to fight over her alot. He would say I hated her. The last fight was a few months ago when he yelled at me in front of her and said I was jealous of her. I was so upset that I didn't speak to him for a few days and that got my point across.
I told him that if he ever says any of those things to me again that I was done and his life could go back to SD and daddy like before we even met. He didn't like that and has been really good. Luckily he sees that she is a selfish, manipulative bitch. He says it himself. He says she is just like BM, lies, is mean to people, wants everyone to do for her, uses people. So he does see it. Now that he realizes it I feel like I don't have to complain as much. Since that big fight I have done less for her, making him step in to drive her around and deal with her stupidity and it opened his eyes more to what I was dealing with.
But it is still his daughter and he will still defend her. So I still have to watch what I say. They went shopping alone one day and he told me she spent the entire time complaining about me and DD. He said he yelled at her to stop. This was a couple of months ago. The other day I mentioned it and he denied that she ever did that. So his head is in the sand still somewhat.
He does realize that I never want her around and he is good about it. I do think that one day it will come back to bite me in the ass. I know it will be a huge fight with him telling me that I hate her and never wanted her around. Well he wouldn't be lying but I would never admit it to him.
His mood also changed when she is around. If she is gone for the weekend, he has all this energy and we go out to eat and go do things. When she is home on the weekend I notice he hides in the room like I do!! He never suggests we go out to eat. So I think deep down he feels the same way but its his daughter so whats he gonna do?? Maybe because he raised her on his own without BM he feels like its his fault if she ends up mean and nasty like she is. And he is the most generous, nicest person you will ever meet. She is BM!!
BTW it took many years of us fighting for him to see her for who she really is. It was a long 5 years!!
I understand totally. The
I understand totally. The wife and I have the stepkids pretty much 24/7, 365 days a year. For a few summers we would plan it so that the SS would be with in-laws while the SD would be at camp. It was heavenly, but it only lasted about 2 weeks. I would have been very upset if that time had been cut short also.
I mentioned that I was taking
I mentioned that I was taking my bd to the beach after work (before I knew she was even coming over), he said, oh good! SD15 decided she wants to come home early so maybe she can go with you since I have to work late
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You know what? THIS type of behaviour really tests the boundaries of my temper, its like a heat seeking missile has erupted from my eyes with my partner as the target when he would presume to kill my fun time when he would ever so thoughtfully present his son to me with a red bow. In DH's delusional world I adored the bones of that child :sick:
My advice is to hide anything that may encourage sd to return home early, hide it from her siblings so they cant inform her and tell OH to do one when he decides to tell you your plans. Have your tried reverse psychology on skid? "Oh sd I missed you so much, seeing as you are back and I am going to be busy I have a list of chores you can do to help out..." then hand her the damn list. Make sure you place right at the top, the stuff sd hates to do }:) I would encourage anyone in a similar situation to adopt this policy because often if the skid KNOWS you don't want them home early, they will do it just to f*ck you off, so kill them with sugar sweet kindness and chores e.g. Huge fake sympathetic smile "oh you wanted to watch x on tv? Well as I thought you were at your mothers I have planned to watch x..." then continue as planned!