My SD’s bridal shower was this past weekend. We had absolutely beautiful weather
Unfortunately, because of one catty bridesmaid, the shower was not a surprise for my SD… that actually made it a little easier for my and DD to get ready and get out the door

SD Lives in a different state, but is getting married in the same state as we live, (she grew up here and half of her family is here) so she was at our house for the weekend, for "appointments" related to the wedding… I digress

My DD and I got to the restaurant about an hour before guests were to arrive to help the bridesmaids set up

"Horseface" (as my hubby calls his ex-wife, mother of my Step-Children) was already there. My Step-Son’s girlfriend picked her up.
So glad that they dressed up for the event, the girlfriend was wearing jeans and a glorified t-shirt and Horseface was wearing brown coruroy’s with a green sweater and sneakers

Most of the set up was already done, so my DD and I just mingled a little with the maid of honor and some of the brides maids till the guests started to arrive

It was a small shower (25 people) the majority of the guests were my husbands family members, his sisters, sisters in law, and aunt, then there were the brides maids, Horseface, me, my Mom, my step-mom, my daughter and a very close friend of the family

The guests start to arrive, my Mom sits at one table, my step-mom sat with her, and then the rest of my husbands family proceeds to crowd around the table with Horseface, to the extent that they took two chairs from the table that my mother sat at, so that they could SQUEEZE in and sit together

So… it was at one table, me, my mother, my step mother, my daughter and the close friend of the family, who didn’t arrive till lunch was almost over

The other table was the bride and bridesmaids, and the third table, horseface, the leach stepson’s girlfriend and the rest of my husbands family

The exclusionary behavior was so ridiculous and obvious… when we were playing those cute ‘shower games’ Horseface announced winners without even taking answers from anyone at our table

THEN…. THEN… The kicker…!
I told the maid of honor in the planning stages of the shower, when she e-mailed me to plan, that I didn’t want to step on Horsefaces toes, I know she’s out of work, and probably won’t be able to contribute, you and the bridesmaids and the mother of the bride figure out a venue… tell the bridesmaids that I’m pitching in, but keep Horseface as involved as you can.
SURE, no problem!

When the bill came at the end of the party, I went into a separate room with the maid of honor to discuss what my share could be

The bill was small enough, the bridesmaids already put so much out of pocket with little ‘door prizes’ and decorations, and the deposit, that I just took the bill and said "between me and you" and wrote the check
The maid of honor said "what do I do about this?" and she showed me a check for $50 that Horseface wrote… I said, you can put that toward the decorations or deposit that you all paid for… and the maid of honor told me that Horseface asked that she wait six weeks before cashing it so that her “other tax refund check can come in”

WTF? Who does that? I told the maid of honor, just give it back to her if you can… it’ll wind up costing you at your bank when you go to deposit it and the funds aren’t there.

I didn’t want to rock the boat with my husband, or my step-daughter. I could tell my SD noticed the situation because she was over at our table often, talking to my mom and stepmom on and off during the party

I don’t understand it, and I really feel wounded and somewhat betrayed.
This woman lied, cheated, stole, did drugs, drank till she passed out every night, got into a car wreck drunk with her children in the car, as far as I’m concerned was BARELY EVER “mother” to any of her children yet there is my husbands family all clamoring to be around her while she F*cking holds court at my SD’s bridal shower…

I’m afraid that this is the preview to what the wedding is going to be like
(I’m just glad that I get long so well with the grooms family, they’re more fun anyway)