BM Strikes again!!!
as i knew she would. we got married a few weeks ago (destination wedding) - so we're having a party at a friends house this weekend to celebrate. its not our weekend but BM said months ago that SD (almost 17) can come.
i get a text from SD yesterday asking since i was off of work today to prep for the party - if there was anyway i could take her to and from work. OF COURSE!!!! so i figure i could switch some things around and drive her the 3 miles to her job.
BM freaked that it is a 40 percent change of scattered showers and that my 2010 mustang is not safe to drive in that weather - that i MUST switch cars with my husband if i plan on taking her daughter to work.
HELL NO!!!!
i refuse to succumb to her idiotic demands.
now her daughter cant go to work - and BM is blaming me.
as for the party - - - - the almost 17 year old now must be home by 9pm. DH said that he wasnt sure what time party will end and since we are hosting we cant just leave - so she will def be home by 10 or 11 but cant promise an exact time. either BM can drive the 20 minutes to come and get her, we'll have her home when it is over, or she can stay here and we will drop her in the morning if it is a problem.
BM said "if you cant do me a favor by switching cars - she isnt coming to the party" WTF???
after arguing for HOURS... BM said she will pick her up at 9 unless SD's grandma gets her home before 9.
SHE IS ALMOST 17!!!! She just finished her Junior year of HS. she isnt THREE YEARS OLD! and has a 9pm curfew when she is with her father!!!!!!
she is pushing her daughter away! how freaking controlling can you be???
she then changed her tune - and said that she can come and she will pick her up at 9
courts have never been
courts have never been involved. SD is scared of her. im just waiting until she graduates and SD asks to move in with us.
Pfft. If your car is 'too
Pfft. If your car is 'too dangerous' :? to drive 3 miles in rain (that is not actually happening? What a nut) than BM can give daughter money for a taxi. Problem solved. Oh, wait. Then it wouldn't be your fault SD has to miss work.
I think once SD hits 18, this BM is going to be sorry she was such an overprotective raging fool.
i have absolutely NO
i have absolutely NO Communication with her - EVER. Dh speaks to her not me
Your SD has rights and all
Your SD has rights and all she has to do is file a piece of paper that says she wants to live with Dad. BTDT with both teens...Nothing the mom can do. We learned trying to fight SD17 and spent thousands fighting it only to give up when SS said he wanted to live with us. She knew she couldn't win and dropped it. So now, we have him and she has her (thankfully).
I would subtly encourage her to pursue this. She would be happier, not being caught up in crazy with BM. I know my SS is since he left BM.
i wish she would come and
i wish she would come and live with us.... we actually all live in the same town - so she wouldnt even have to change schools, etc.
poor kid
i cant subtly mention it tho. dont think there is anyway i could do that. its nice to dream tho
I would think twice about
I would think twice about having BM show up at what's basically your wedding reception. Does SD drive? I'd be willing to let my SD take one of the cars home and we pick it up later to avoid having BM at my wedding reception.
OH i know!!!! but SD Doesnt
OH i know!!!! but SD Doesnt get her license for another month.
and i really dont want to be responsible for someone else who will be drinking (my MIL, her grandma) to drive her home.