I did it...emailed both a marriage counselor and a divorce lawyer
Forums:
I posted a couple days ago that I was fed up with my husband lying around all day (he's off in the summer) playing video games, while I work at least 45 hours a week and do 90% or more of the housework. I wrote that I was going to email either a marriage counselor or a divorce lawyer, and I didn't know which.
Later that day, I made an appointment to see a marriage counselor. That appointment is tomorrow.
This afternoon, DH took stepprincess15 out to an expensive lunch again, but he didn't bother to stop by the bank to check on our home equity loan application, as I had asked him to. Of course. He won't ever do anything I ask him to do.
So, this afternoon, I sent out the other email I was contemplating sending.
How do u feel???? Are u a
How do u feel???? Are u a little more relieved?
No, I am brokenhearted. I
No, I am brokenhearted. I went into this marriage with the best of intentions, and I really do love my husband.
But I'm not going to be used as a maid and a paycheck by anyone. I am worth more than that.
We all are.
That's right! YOU ARE WORTH
That's right! YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT! *hugs*
I wish you the best!
I hope whatever you decide
I hope whatever you decide works out best for YOU!
Glad you took the steps to
Glad you took the steps to educate yourself on your options. Sad that it had to get there.
Think no matter how it goes
Think no matter how it goes you have given your best. And you already prepared if tomorrow goes bad. I hate that you are in the situation. It sucks seeing so many men, expect women including myself (got up at 445 came home to pick up house while DH&SS are out riding) to pick up slack while they enjoy and get to be disney dads. I am lucky I at least get appreciation and thank yous, and he does help some.
I wish you the best you have a whole forum worth of support no matter which you have to pursue further than the email.
Well done. I'm glad you have
Well done. I'm glad you have enough self respect to expect better for yourself. I'm sorry for your pain. But it is really true. As one door closes, another opens. I'm thinking you are intelligent enough to make a better choice next time. I wish you all the best. Good luck.
Good for you! It was a hard
Good for you! It was a hard step to make, but it's done. Once the heartbreak is done, the healing sets in, then comes the power. Remember we are all here for you!
Good for you! It was a hard
Good for you! It was a hard step to make, but it's done. Once the heartbreak is done, the healing sets in, then comes the power. Remember we are all here for you!
IMHO, give the marriage
IMHO, give the marriage counselor a shot first.
My DH and I were experiencing issues so we ended up at a marriage counselor last week. And I have already seen an improvement on his part! Wow, huh? It just took someone else to show him what he was or was not doing... or doing wrong to make him see. And believe me... I chose an older father-figure like male counselor because no woman was going to tell him anything and no 24 year old fresh out of counseling school was going to tell him either. My choice was strategic... }:)
Good luck whatever you decide to do... HUGS!
Yes, DH is going to the
Yes, DH is going to the appointment with me this afternoon. He's going to be told how I feel about his behavior, and that I expect to see changes.
If he makes an effort to change, I will, of course, stay with him. I do love him and we get along well in many ways.
But making no effort is no longer an option that he has, not after today.
I have a strange feeling that
I have a strange feeling that he is going to turn it around once he sees how real it is.
Good luck <3