Thanksgiving Step/In-law Crap????
Two or three years after MIL passed away, when I was asking H what was happening with his family for Thanksgiving, H said they hadn't really done this in the last few years and wouldn't be that year :? :O
I assumed that H's sister decided that Thanksgiving dinner was just for her and FIL and friends, that H's daughters could have it elsewhere and that H and I could too. That would be totally something she would do.
Anyway, H let it slip a little while back that ever since the first year his family stopped doing Thanksgiving - and strangely enough BM did too along with H's eldest's in-laws?????? that H's daughter has apparently been hosting Thanksgiving at her place. BM and BM's mother are there (someone H's eldest has claimed to despise for years) and along with BM and her family well guess who else? H's sister and FIL of course!
I was surprised H doesn't really seem to care about this. And although H's sister loves to be the one to dictate everything she loves even more to throw her 'wonderful relationship with BM' :sick: 
in our faces so she would love for us to hear that she is having a wonderful family event along with FIL with H's daughter, H's ex-wife and ex-MIL (whom he cannot stand) with H and I excluded
I'm sure the real culprit in this one is H's conniving }:) }:) }:) daughter, but H's sister would be a willing participant in that one for sure
I thought it was totally strange that H's family would suddenly stop celebrating Thanksgiving, not to mention BM, not to mention H's eldest daughter's in-laws??? Such crap. All along they are having a happy big family Thanksgiving dinner with H and I excluded.
On a GREAT note, that means I get to have Thanksgiving dinner now with my family every year 
This year I'm hosting and there will be a nice crowd of all the people I want to be around 
It is ignorant behavior from
It is ignorant behavior from them, but not surprised that you don't get that
What is rude is some of the
What is rude is some of the posts I have read from you. Please do me a favor and don't respond to any of mine. Your input is not wanted. Thank you
Just have thanksgiving with
Just have thanksgiving with your family every year. You can't control sd, bm, BMs mom and inlaws so it's not worth it to let them take up so much space in your head. Inlaws want to be close to BMs family? That's fine, but you're under no obligation to subject yourself to that. Celebrate the holidays with the people who value you.
IDK, I guess I don't see
IDK, I guess I don't see anything so terrible here. The first year of Thanksgiving after your MIL's passing and the granddaughter took over the tradition of dinner. Did you call and invite FIL to your home that first year?
I'm going to assume from the sound of your SIL and SD you don't really much care for either woman, so why not you host your family and be happy with it. Not unrealistic or out of line that SD would invite her grandfather and aunt and also her own mother and her maternal grandmother. This is the girl's family. You wouldn't want to attend dinner with BM would you?
Invite your guest, cook your dinner, enjoy your day and your family. Count your blessing. Life's too short to worry about trying to control other people and/or forcing something that really isn't. Be glad your FIL isn't spending his day alone. This is DH's father, if DH is good with it, let it go and celebrate with those you'll enjoy sharing company with.
So the only reason you know
So the only reason you know is because your husband let it slip?
Going through a similar
Going through a similar situation here. Queen Bee Sd has decided to play mommy [aka Control Freak] to her brothers, BM, and in-laws so she now hosts events that we're not included in. I'm disengaged so I don't attend anything anyway, but it breaks my heart that she treats DH like that. He has been so good to all of them. QB was on the outs with BM for years and since she had a baby, now she can't get far enough up her butt. Who was there all those years when she thought BM was Satan? The same guy she excludes now. It pisses me off BAD.
Ya, DH really doesn't seem to
Ya, DH really doesn't seem to care StepAside
so I will happily host my own Thanksgiving Dinner with my family and we will have an awesome time.
Dh has always had a much much better time at my family get together's anyway. There is so much less drama and politics. Dh always tells me it's a party when my family gets together. Good food, wine, good conversation, many laughs. It's like night and day. At H's family get together's it's so uptight, lots of sarcasm and back-stabbing going on. H is treated like dirt and me...well even worse than that.
We used to argue after every one of his family get together's. We do nothing but laugh at all the silliness of mine....
I'll take silly over back-stabbing drama any day
Glad you resolved this. DH
Glad you resolved this. DH and I were invited then 'uninvited' to Christmas dinner at my Sister's house last year. Instead of letting it get the best of us we celebrated the holidays with friends and had a ball. If my Sister should ask invite us this year we'd decline. More fun with friends.
And YSD always loved going to
And YSD always loved going to my family get together's too. She's a smart girl
she knows where all the fun is at. Now if only I could get H and my BIL to get along I could see my favorite sis more ....:(