Danger danger.... that is too cozy! You told him it would make you uncomfortable, and he chose to do it anyhow. Likely he knew canceling would piss BM off, and he just let you know EXACTLY where you stand, and that is behind HER.

This won't change. Trust me. For years I bowed down to this shit because "he wanted to make things better with BM" or "he was doing it for the SKids". All I got was resentment and still being second place to BM 13 years later.

Put your foot down NOW that this ends here and now, or leave. Because if you put up with it now, it will go on forever. He just drove a woman who has made DEATH THREATS to you to a mutual appointment. how fucked up is that?

very inappropriate for a man with another family. he's going to have to chose, his ex or you. this is a definite hill to die on. if you cannot get this man to acknowledge your feelings and to severe these emotional ties he has with his ex, I would become an ex. anything beyond a transparent, business relationship with his ex is an emotional affair and just as damaging as an actual affair to you. he needs an ultimatum unless you don't mind being a "sister wife". I won't share my man, especially with a woman he had sex with. show him these posts. he needs to shape up or ship out.