Peace and Quiet Please!
My ss13 won't shut his piehole! I swear this kid babbles nonsense non-stop! He screams while playing video games, sings at the top of his lungs at any given time, babbles nonsense just to grate on your nerves. He embellishes a fake laugh. He can't even keep his his mouth shut at the dinner table. It is rare to have a normal conversation with this kid. There is nothing medically wrong with him because he does not do this around his friends or other people. He even admits that he would never act like this around his friends. He does this just with me and on the rare days when we are all at home together. As a matter of fact, he does it even more so when we are all together. DH just tunes him out until I say something. DH threatens to discipline him but never follows through.
This crud goes on every single day. Right now I am hiding in my bedroom and he is in the living room with my DH just jabbering away while DH just ignores it!
Ss13 lives with DH and me full time. I don't even get a break because BM lives in a different state. He is going for Thanksgiving break and believe you me, I am counting down the days.
My DH works night shift and I work full time during the day. So I get to listen to this motor mouth constantly. My DH gets a break because SS is in school during the day.
I have told ss13 to stop the jabbering and to act his age. I have discussed this with DH and he said "he's just being a kid'. However, DH was feeling my pain the other day when ss13 was pulling his charades. He reprimanded him and sent him to his room. This only caused a meltdown by my ss13 crying like a 2 year old.
I feel this is an attention thing. Ss13 is very well aware what he is doing. To boot thus kid is disrespectful, mouthy, whiny and lazy. He whines over every stinking thing it is downright nauseating. The sad part about it is we used to have a wonderful relationship and talk for hours. Now I can't even stand to deal with him.
This kid gets all the attention in the world. He is spoiled beyond belief. I j6st cannot handle this anymore. I am not even comfortable in my own home anymore. I do not have any time to myself at all. The only family member I look forward to seeing or spending time with is my dog!
Let me just say, I feel your
Let me just say, I feel your pain. I wish I had advice for this. My EIGHTEEN year old SS does this! I am counting the days till graduation and he leaves for boot camp in June!
Locking myself in my room does help...
Lucky you! I know you
Lucky you! I know you have
paid your dues for dealing with it so long! I am ready to send my SS to bootcamp tomorrow if I could.
I have already suffered through my sd17 attitudes for so many years. She lives with BM and step dad fulltime now. She is actually becoming a human being again...lol I have to deal with this little monstrosity. Yes, I have resorted to my bedroom, but I can still hear him yipping away.
Every thought has crossed my mind tonight from running away, becoming a nun for the solitude and even committing myself (at least I might get a private room...lol)
You're lucky - my 14yr old SS
You're lucky - my 14yr old SS can barely drag his disgusting @$$ out of his room to shower; his desk chair had to be thrown out b/c I have a K-9 sense of smell and it smelled like his unwashed rear-end. Because I choose not to interact with him if I can help it (it's literally like talking to a lamp b/c he was plopped in front of a TV at age 3 and only talks about anime cartoons & video games), I didn't realize that he had not showered in nearly 3 days over the summer. He and his brother, my other SS, live with their disheveled mother and she's too busy trying to find a babysitter for her 3rd kid by her ex BF (typical). So my point - be glad your SK are going to college - so help me God, the one SS is a loser in training and if my DH thinks I'm dealing with a jobless, school-less loser in 4 yrs - he'll hear from my lawyer when I file...life is way too short and I don't have bio-kids
Wow - this is clearly a TEEN
Wow - this is clearly a TEEN thing!
got that same shit going on here!
YSS does this continuously. i
YSS does this continuously. i love him dearly but it can be exhausting...
OP u could follow Ditzy's example and get an ipod and earbuds }:)
I don't know why kids won't
I don't know why kids won't just stfu. I have no peace drink coffee in hiding. Sneak around house so kids don't hear me and ask what's that oh that's not fair I'm hungry too. Today's my birthday you know what I got? Stupid ss15 suspended so can't even enjoy day cuz have to baby sit him Cuz he won't stfu in school. I feel for ya I hate kids.
Oh my, the joy of being a
:jawdrop: Oh my, the joy of being a Step Parent! LOL
I feel for ya. I go through
I feel for ya. I go through the same exact thing every morning. I sometimes hide out in the bathroom till everyone leaves in the morning.
SD won't stop following me around in the morning asking me stupid unnecessary questions. Sorry SD but you're not cute and I don't want to hear your damn annoying as all hell voice first thing in the morning!
Ugh. I have one of those.
Ugh. I have one of those. He's 14 with ADHD. Never shuts up.
It's gotten to where I now hold up my hand when he comes at me and I say: "Not interested. Go call your mom and tell her about it." BM tends to hangs up on him, which makes me feel rotten. But not rotten enough to put up with his constant flood of whining, inappropriate comments and stupid questions.
Just a question. Would your
Just a question. Would your DH work night shifts and leave his kid alone if you weren't in the picture?
I mean if it's bothering you so much to be alone with SS and listen to his crap all the time, why are you alone with him?
I have teenage nephews who are loud when playing video games. Boys will be boys BUT they are not obnoxious, loud, and in your face 24/7. That's just unbearable and if someone HAS to bear it, it should be your DH and NOT YOU!
Is it possible to have a quiet talk with DH about his work hours and figure something out so you're not hiding in your bedroom for some peace and quiet.
I know exactly how you feel and SD's constant in your face attitude drives me insane! I avoid her as much as possible now and leave all the responsibility on DH. He loves her nonstop singing, humming, talking, spinning in the living room while watching tv, he can have her! lol I want no part of it.
Peace and quiet at ANY cost even if I have to take the long way home
It IS an attention thing, and
It IS an attention thing, and he will continue doing it as long as it works. He is going out of his way to get under your skin and get a reaction out of you, even if it's a negative one. So as long as he knows how annoyed you are, he wins.
Here's how to stop him from "winning." Give him no reaction whatsoever. Don't engage at all. Give him silence and blank stare ever time for the next few weeks. Or don't even make eye contact at all. Walk out of the room if you can. If you are involved in an activity and he's demanding you react to his behavior, continue your task as if he's not there. He will eventually get bored with playing this game, and stop annoying you to get attention.
I don't believe all kids are innocent and well meaning. Some kids will cause a problem just because they find it amusing. It gives them power over adults. When he can stop getting a reaction out of you, good or bad, he no longer has the power. You do.